Books Endorsed by BPDFamily.com

The following books have be reviewed and are highly recommended by BPDFamily.com to its members. There are many good books in this field, but these books are particularily good - especially if you are limited to purchasing one or two books. BPDFamily accepts no donations or comissions from authors or publishers. The books that appear on this list have been reviewed by the satff are recommended based soley on the merits if the work.


Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder by Shari Y. Manning, Ph.D.
	Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder People with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) can be compassionate, caring, smart, and funny, but they are also prone to difficult emotional outbursts and self-destructive acts. Shari Manning helps overwhelmed loved ones understand why their loved on acts they way they do and she teaches how to respond contructively. These simple strategies can radically transform any troubled relationship. This "how to" book is highly recommneded by BPDFamily.com.

The High Conflict Couple by Alan E. Fruzzetti, Ph.D
	A Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy, & Validation This is a highly recommended resource when one spouse (or significant other) has Borderline Personality Disorder. This is an excellent book to share with your BPD loved one as it doesn't make direct mention of BPD - other than that the authors are all leaders in the field of BPD. In this book, Fruzzetti, adapts dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) tools for use by couples.

The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder by Randi Kreger
	New Tools and Techniques to Stop Walking on Eggshells This book is for family members of a person with borderline personality disorder (BPD). If you are only going to have one book, or if you are purchasing your first book, this would be our recommendation. Ms Kreger discusses five tools to make home life more manageable for family members and more constructive for the person affected with BPD

Loving the Self-Absorbed by Nina Brown EdD
	How to Create a More Satisfying Relationship with a Narcissistic Partner This book is for family members of a person with narcissism personality disorder (NPD) or traits. Nina Brown, Ed.D, offers practical ways to understand the narcissist from a non-judgmental point-of-view. The author reassures you that you are not helpless - instead, the book offers realistic tips on living so that both partners needs are met.

Borderline Personality Disorder Demystified by Robert O. Friedel, MD
	An Essential Guide for Understanding and Living with BPD Borderline Personality Disorder is not well understood by the general public. Personality Disorder Demystified is an excellent resource to help someone become "grounded" in the basics and have a reliable foundation. The author is well founded technically and in personal experience - he is an MD and his sister has the disorder. This book is both hopeful and compassionate. This is an excellent first read. It is not a "how to" book.

Feeling Good by David D. Burns, M.D.
	The New Mood Therapy Many of our members suffer from depression from years of being in an invalidating home environment. Feeling Good is the book most frequently "prescribed" by psychologists for patients undergoing Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). Clinical studies have shown patient improvement by just reading the book - a treatment known as bibliotherapy. Four (4) million copies have been sold in the United States.

The Journey from Abandonment to Healing by Susan Anderson, MSW
	Turn the End of a Relationship into the Beginning of a New Life Every day there are people who have lost a romantic relationhsip and feel as if life has lost it purpose. Abandonment is about loss of love - that crucial loss of connectedness. It often involves breakup, betrayal, aloneness. This is a good book for people struggling with abandonment issues and needing to get in touch with their feelings.

Borderline Personality Disorder in Adolescents by Blaise A. Aguirre, MD
	A Complete Guide to Understanding and Coping When Your Adolescent Has BPD Recent developments in diagnostic techniques and treatments are showing that thousands of teens have borderline personality disorder. Parenting teenagers who exhibit anger, eating disorders, cutting and relationship issues or threats of suicide can be frustrating and frightening.

I Don't Have To Make Everything All Better by Gary Lundberg LMFT, MA
	Six Practical Principles That Empower Others to Solve Their Own Problems While Enriching Your Relationship This is a recommended resource when one's young child has Borderline Personality Disorder. Lundberg addresses the dilemma that arises when family members expect us to solve their problems . This is a very easy book to read - written by a very caring grandparent who works as a marriage counselor.

Understanding the Borderline Mother by Christine Ann Lawson, Ph.D.
	Transcend the Intense, Unpredictable, and Volatile Relationship Growing up in a family with a dysfunctional parent can leave children with a very confused vision of normalcy. Lawson writes about the disorder with easy to understand passages and describes many situations and feelings that, if you grew up with a BPD parent, you will be able to relate to. This book is very useful for children and husbands. It is both validating and eye opening for those who have lived this life.

Surviver to Thriver Manual by J. Patrick Gannon, Ph.D. and George J. Bilotta, Ph.D.
	The transformative journey from victim, to survivor, to thriver The Survivor to Thriver manual is an essential guidebook for Adult Children of a BPD Parent, as well as for any survivor of physical, sexual and/or emotional child abuse or neglect. The 21 Steps are a statement of the tasks and issues that most adult survivors face during their recovery from child abuse.This 115 page manual is free to BPDFamily.com members.

I am Not Sick by Xavier Amador, Ph.D.
	Staff Review Pending

The Narcissistic / Borderline Couple by Joan Lachkar, Ph.D.
	A Psychoanalytic Perspective On Marital Treatment Joan Lachkar, Ph.D, defines the narcissistic/borderline couple as "individuals who, when they are together, form a shared couple myth that gives rise to many collective fantasies". Borderline Personality Disorder and Narcissistic partners form a parasitic bond characterized by their painful, circular patterns of behavior. This book examines the complexities of these relationships.