[L5] Parenting after the Split

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse... Have you considered that being critical, judgmental, or invalidating toward the other parent, no matter what she or he just did will only make matters worse? Someone has to be do something. This means generating the motivation to stop making things worse, learning how to interrupt your own negative responses, body language, facial expressions, voice tone, and learning how to inhibit your urges to do things that you later realize are contributing to the tension with your ex.

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		how would you deal with this?	meryl	7	915	February 03, 2006, 09:59:26 PM by meryl

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