How much have you invested in your pwBPD's recovery?

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[MammaMia]

Yup...   I get it.  It is fortunate she will even see a therapist.  THAT is a huge achievement in itself.  Mine says his REAL problem is alcohol...   sober 6 1/2 years now.  BUT all the issues are all still there. 

I absolutely HATE this illness.  Other mental disorders seem to have treatments that can work, meds, etc.
I have been told the meds needed to treat their anxiety and stress can often actually cause someone with BPD to become
manic and totally out of control.  My son tried several and the results were horrible. His rages were more violent and
frightening and he had suicidal ideation constantly which was terrifying.  For him, at least, no meds is the better option. 

The fact the therapist said "Do you know what you are dealing with?" says it all.  Even DBT is not failproof.  They have to want to get better and work hard at changing the way they think. 

God help us all.

[oglobaith]

Our dd is udBPD.  Here in the UK, at least at the moment, health care is free but I think we would have to fund DBT ourselves if she accepts she needs help.  We have taken a £20,000 loan (payable over the next 5 yrs) to fund the legal battle over residence/contact with our grandchildren. We can see it would be hard to move in the next few years while they are young as they need the stability of our place, but that's the only way we could recoup some of this.  It's hard isn't it, especially when you don't see the end in sight?