done it again and dont know what to do.

[Think About It...]

I have dont it again... I surely take part in the dance (because I let her rule me)
I have been seeing this woman for 6 months now (second time round) and things are feeling awkward for me.
She has given me the silent treatment for no reason and will also not talk about it.
I dont like this. Second time round when we got together I said that things would need to be different, e.g. she will need to talk to me.
Well at first it looked really good and we where having a lot of fun until a couple of days ago.

I cant do this I wish I could run away and hide. I am to blame aswell for putting up with it. Sht I had read so much on BPD (have a mother and had previous relationships like this) I should voice it before it gets ugly and painful.

any thoughts are much appreciated.
 ?

w2h

[wish_2_have]

I have dont it again... I surely take part in the dance (because I let her rule me)
I have been seeing this woman for 6 months now (second time round) and things are feeling awkward for me.
She has given me the silent treatment for no reason and will also not talk about it.
I dont like this. Second time round when we got together I said that things would need to be different, e.g. she will need to talk to me.
Well at first it looked really good and we where having a lot of fun until a couple of days ago.

I cant do this I wish I could run away and hide. I am to blame aswell for putting up with it. Sht I had read so much on BPD (have a mother and had previous relationships like this) I should voice it before it gets ugly and painful.

any thoughts are much appreciated.
 ?

w2h

[karidust]

It is very difficult for sure. Most BPD are great to be around. My W and I had so much fun when we go out and do things together. Time with her was just so unbelievable. The good times were so good that I would just get through the bad time to get the good times back. Even if it was for just a little while. But after almost 3 years, I realize that the good times are not worth sacrificing what I have to during the bad times. During the bad times, my self-esteem and my relationship with my family suffers so greatly that can no longer even enjoy the good times with my W. My therapist and I are working on figuring out what drew me back to this kind of relationship and why I would come back to being treated so badly. I think that's the key. I don't think that if I had normal healthy boundaries that I would be in the predicament I am in.

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GENERAL ANNOUNCEMENT: Are you on the right board? This board is for analyzing and making the decision to either continue working on your relationship or to leave it. If you have already please advance to "L3 Leaving" or the "L4 Staying" board. All members living with a pwBPD should learn to use the Stop the Bleeding tools - boundaries, timeouts and other basic tools - to better manage the day to day interactions with your partner. If you have questions on any of the tools, feel free to go over to Staying: Improving a Relationship with a Borderline Partner and ask for help. :-)