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Author Topic: FACEBOOK... the BPD's feeding ground?  (Read 5520 times)
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« on: March 23, 2010, 10:10:29 PM »

thats where i 'met' mine. and after reading hundreds of posts on here, FB is a recurring theme. can we shut down facebook? i dont check her page, hell the last time i talked to her was because i deleted her. we have to do something about fb...any suggestion? the only reason i get on there now is to play mafia wars lol. hey, if any of you are into mafia wars, let me know. what we gonna do about the facebook hell?
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« Reply #1 on: March 23, 2010, 10:15:38 PM »

In my view, it is text messaging.  That is the truly evil method of the BP.  She can sit across from you at a table and say "I love you" to somebody else.
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« Reply #2 on: March 23, 2010, 10:29:38 PM »

Well, I guess it's how you use or don't use the technology.  I joined up on FB just after the break-up with X; he and I aren't on each other's list, and I've kept a strict boundary with contacts that are mostly "his".  Also I've been careful to keep my personal life off my FB page.  But for a while I found myself somewhat addicted to the site.  I can see how seductive it could be as a covert means of checking up on anyone's X.

Haha --- pre-Industrial Age, do you think s came in the form of yodeling? 
Talking drums?
Voodoo dolls?
Smoke signals?  How would you know which one was for you (unless the BP were capable of writing "Surrender, Dorothy" in the sky?)
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« Reply #3 on: March 23, 2010, 10:33:33 PM »

Well, I guess it's how you use or don't use the technology.  I joined up on FB just after the break-up with X; he and I aren't on each other's list, and I've kept a strict boundary with contacts that are mostly "his".  Also I've been careful to keep my personal life off my FB page.  But for a while I found myself somewhat addicted to the site.  I can see how seductive it could be as a covert means of checking up on anyone's X.

Haha --- pre-Industrial Age, do you think s came in the form of yodeling? 
Talking drums?
Voodoo dolls?
Smoke signals?  How would you know which one was for you (unless the BP were capable of writing "Surrender, Dorothy" in the sky?)
haha thats pretty good yodeling...lol. and im probably the only person on earth who doesnt have a cell phone so i can dodge that bullet easily...and this just in! not even 3 minutes ago i see there is a reply to my friends post...he made a comment about mushroom hungint and i told him to pick me up too...well guess who replied 3 times to it? i havent even looked! i just came back here to ftf real quick lol. can anyone else check for me? lol
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« Reply #4 on: March 23, 2010, 10:41:02 PM »

In my view, it is text messaging.  That is the truly evil method of the BP.  She can sit across from you at a table and say "I love you" to somebody else.


im pretty sure mine did this before.  and im pretty sure she's texted me these things while sitting across from someone else.  i finally got the balls to go through her phone ... part of me wishes i hadn't, other part was glad i did.
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« Reply #5 on: March 23, 2010, 10:50:04 PM »

 lol yodeling  LOVE it!
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« Reply #6 on: March 23, 2010, 10:52:00 PM »

I'm having a hell of a time with fb.  She blocked me long before we officially split because she wanted a break.  Turns out while I was blocked, she decided she would be single.  Anyways, in my insanity, I actually created a dummy profile.  I still can't see her page, but I could see when she changed her picture.  She put up some modeling photo, I assume to get attention.  Later on, I figured out a way to see what she updated on her profile through the friends list of one of her friends.  I keep looking to see that relationship status change.  I can't for the life of me stop, and I want to so badly.
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« Reply #7 on: March 23, 2010, 10:53:56 PM »

I find facebook so yawn. Farmville and that stuff? Double-yawn. The interface is very dull. Same with Twitter! I think since it appeals to teens and people in their 20s, it's definitely a playground for the emotionally immature (the age 3-10 set playing at being adults). (Or for those who see it as entertaining in ways I just cannot fathom  ? .) I do have a FB page up for my business but check it rarely.

Blocking = you have cooties. Heart = I gave you a valentine, but maybe I gave the entire class a valentine, you figure it out. Friend = you're popular with me!

Might as well walk over to the local high school and roam the halls again like I did when I was a teen smiley.

dilbert, if you figure out how to shut it down, there's a huge population of oldies that won't miss it smiley.
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« Reply #8 on: March 23, 2010, 10:55:55 PM »

I'm having a hell of a time with fb.  She blocked me long before we officially split because she wanted a break.  Turns out while I was blocked, she decided she would be single.  Anyways, in my insanity, I actually created a dummy profile.  I still can't see her page, but I could see when she changed her picture.  She put up some modeling photo, I assume to get attention.  Later on, I figured out a way to see what she updated on her profile through the friends list of one of her friends.  I keep looking to see that relationship status change.  I can't for the life of me stop, and I want to so badly.

I'm giving you a virtual slap on the hand.  Stop looking at her fb, it is bad for you.  I know what you're saying.  I feel your pain.  5 years later, on occasion I am curious.  Try that old trick where you put a rubber band on your wrist and SNAP it when your getting the urge.
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« Reply #9 on: March 23, 2010, 11:05:59 PM »

facebook is where i discovered my little gem. but i have no desire to
see her page, her posts, her relationship status, or anything else about
her. i miss the girl i signed up for, but not the toxic trixie i ended up with.
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