Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder by Valerie Porr

[real lady]

Started reading this book and I can say that I wish that I had read this book a year ago.

I would put it AT THE TOP of any recommended reading since it is SO THOROUGHLY helpful to the NON to understand HOW and WHY (in some cases) our pwbpd behave as they do. Learning about the physiology of the brain and understanding the physical basis of this illness is REALLY helping me.


BPD is NOT ABOUT ME..it is about my ubpdh's behavior and WHY HE behaves as he does...what I need to learn is how to "read" him and to provide validation when needed and to NOT TAKE THINGS PERSONALLY (as he personalizes EVERY THING) in helping to make a better life for us with "what we have right now". I also understand in a more indepth way why he may not "be able" to accept that he has a mental illness and he experiences about 9x more psychic and emotional pain and only feel 1/2 the amount of joy that I do. 

[heronbird]

Thankyou Mik, Im so glad if I can help anyone, and yes I need to re read it and learn it all off by heart. It has been a really good book and I say it is the reason that I still have a relationship with my dd. I dont always get it right but the tools that I have learnt from the book are so helpful.
The only thing I wish is that I live in NY and could go to TARA and attend some meetings there.