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Author Topic: Does anyone know the average life expectancy of a BPD relationship?  (Read 2814 times)
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« on: November 15, 2010, 04:07:14 PM »

How long is it generally before things go bad? The therapist I went to, who was the one who pointed out that my wife sounded like she had all the signs of BPD/NPD, told me that it was unusual to last as long as we have in this kind of relationship. ( 20 yrs total)
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« Reply #1 on: November 15, 2010, 04:14:10 PM »

I think it has a lot to do with our weaknesses. I put up with horrible abuse but stuck it out because my self esteem was such crap and she was such a nugget of arm candy. It lasted 11 years with 5 married. It should probably have been over in a year or two.
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« Reply #2 on: November 15, 2010, 04:25:44 PM »

From my experience and posts on here a couple of months before the abuse starts.  I did 9 years but most of those we didnt live together.  I work she didn't and I had children who came first so...I guess that kept my sanity.  No way could I have taken that crap 24/7.  But in a way I think it was bad as I would have got out sooner if  I had lived with her the whole time...
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« Reply #3 on: November 15, 2010, 04:59:16 PM »

I think a lot of it depends on children involved, physical health of pwBPD, ability of pwBPD to earn a living & how big a weenie the NON is. They all came together in a perfect storm for me, especially the weenie part. 40 years here.
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