The ex emailed me and informed me that the nurses and doctors all told him that our daughter had a UTI for over a year. I told him that is impossible. Our daughter never a a UTI while she was in my care for almost 15 years. Ex said he believed this doctors because they are professionals and I ask him how do they know she had a UTI when our daughter was in my care. How can you diagnose a UTI without seeing the patient and doing tests on them? Ex replied that our daughter told the nurses and doctors that she had a "pain in her side" and by that they determind that she had a UTI for over a year. Sounds like BS to me. The only time she had a UTI was when she was in his care in August of this year. Because she had a UTI while living with him, he had to blame it on me. Why does it have to be someones fault? She got a UTI. Girls get them. But ex had to go out and blame me even though she wasn't in my home for a total of 95 days.
Unfortunately peaceplease, my daughter will not beable to come back in my home. She has made some "Horrible" accusations against my husband and I and I can't take any chances of her coming back and making more false accusations. I will not lose my children because she sees me as the "evil" one. I can be the "good" one today but what happens when she doesn't get what she wants tomorrow? I will then be the "Evil" one and she will try and get rid of me. I can't do that to my other children. They need me.
The court order "Provider" is a liscense psycologist and family advocate. I think he sees these cases more and more these days. Ex and I were in the room wth him for a total of 90 minutes. The provider asked both ex and I if our daughter had a relationship with both of us and our families "before" all this happened.
I of course said "yes" she lived with me for almost 15 years and she saw my family on a regular basis. Then it was the ex's turn to answer the question and he said "Yes" that she had a relationship with both families. I could not believe what I just heard. HE LIED TO THE PROVIDER. I raised my hand like a "Little school girl" and said "NO, what he just said was not true". The thing is, the provider already knew the answer. The Provider yelled at my ex and told him if he "Lied" to him again to get out of his office. The provider wasn't going to tolerate any games. He told my ex what he already thought of him, and he was dead on. As for what he thought of me, I don't know. I was my self and that is all I can do at this point. He did tell me that things are going to get better.
Misfit101, I agree with you when it comes to the younger kids wanting to communicate with their sister. Right now it is just like you said with your d and s. She talks to them every other month and it is, "how are you? how is school?" nothing to complicated as of now. I will talk to my H and let him know that I will continue supervision all calls and that if the calls start to go in a direction that I think is unappropriate, we will stop the calls. I am sure he will be ok with that. He is just so hurt by what she is doing. He has always looked at her as his own. It breaks my heart to see what she is doing to him and knowing everything he has done for her.
Thanks for all the support!