This is a book which has given me so much guidance in the past few years. It is the only book that I have both downloaded as an ebook and also own a hard copy of. It's the only book that gave me hope that I could learn how to be a better parent for all my kids especially my emotionally dysrgulated ones.
What is wonderful about this book is that it grew out of a demand from other parents. Parents that were learning DBT skills for their teens asked the authors "WHY HAVEN'T I SEEN THIS INFORMATION BEFORE? "IT WOULD HAVE HELPED ME TO PARENT MY CHILD WHEN THEY WERE YOUNGER!"
The reality is, our children do not suddenly become troubled when they hit 13. These kids are already struggling with controlling their emotions from a young age.
The information out there is scarce and mostly useless on what to do with the kids that act out, the kids that act in, the kids that act fine in one setting and poorly in another. The kids that you fear might hurt themselves, you, a sibling, or another friend in a fit of rage or frustration.
This book also deals with the issues you encounter with teachers, therapists, your partner, extended family, blended families and all siblings as you try to find some balance for your child.
I also think it is a great book for all parents co-parenting with a BPD parent as many kids have
just from being with the other parent and learning their coping techniques.
I am a mom of 6, 3 step and 3 bio kids. 2 of my kids, SS10 and SS15 suffer from severe emotional dysreg. Their Biomom suffers from BPD and Bipolar.They are 2 very different kids in terms of temprament and the way the ED manifests. One SS10 acts out at home and rarely at school. He has also started having somatic complaints and suicidal thoughts. The other SS15 acts out when under stress but mostly just acts in and no one knows what is going on until all explodes. Both of them need a lot of support in order to work through their emotions and my DH and I had to learn better ways to respond to their outbursts.
This book will give you guidance and is easy to read. My DH does not like to read these kind of books-- so I was able to just have him read a few key elements and he was able to start changing his responses as well. It takes time to learn but you will find that it will change the way you interact with all the difficult people in your life, not just the kiddos.
There are so many things about this book that make it accessible and real. The authors are not concerned with what your child's diagnosis is...if they are ADHD, ODD, Bipolar, Depressed, tourettes, autistic, asperger's, downs, gifted, golden, indigo, or pink. They are giving the best parenting advice and help I have seen for all kids really and believe me... as a mom of 6-- I've seen and read a lot.
Download, buy, borrow, this book today if it even seems like you only might
need it. Give your therapist a copy. It's that good of a book.