My BPD girlfriend who I have been with for almost two years now has been doing the push/pull cycling, breaking up/getting back together now several times. She recently started distancing herself again which ended in us breaking up again.
I have asked her several times to go to counseling with me, which she initially agrees to, but backs out at the last minute. She has recently done this again. I can only assume she is afraid? She is officially diagnosed with BPD several years ago. She is aware of it, but does minimize her illness more than I think. Has anyone seen A&E's program called "Intervention"? The thought has occured to me to try to do something like this with my BPD girlfriend - IF
she comes back again. I never really know if she will come back to me but the pattern has been usually a month of not seeing each other and she comes back. If she does come back I thought about having some kind of intervention with her to somehow get across how painful her push/pull cycling is to me; that I can't keep living this way and there has to be some kind of solution/compromise.
She is also very passive-aggressive in the most insidious ways I've ever seen. Hardly anything is spoken outright when she is angry and I'm blackened to a crisp. I have a very good article on BPD/Passive Aggression if someone is interested.
I don't know if anything like this would make an impact on her or not. Anyone's thoughts?