This is a worthwhile topic. Hope you don't mind but I've relocated the thread. It should receive a better response at "[L3] Leaving: Detaching from the Wounds of a failed BPD Relationship
Here is the link: http://BPDfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=70626.0
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If you think this move should be reconsidered, please PM me - I'll work with you to get it in the right place.