10 reasons why a pwBPD may contact you

[Think About It...]

10.Bored

9. Short on backups

8. Hoping you developed amnesia

7. Think that statue of limitations may have past

6. Current person(s) involved with not providing enough attention

5. Need Money

4. Need something else

3. Drunk

2. Pocket dialed you

1. All of the above

 

 

[Robhart]

10.Bored

9. Short on backups

8. Hoping you developed amnesia

7. Think that statue of limitations may have past

6. Current person(s) involved with not providing enough attention

5. Need Money

4. Need something else

3. Drunk

2. Pocket dialed you

1. All of the above

 

 

[mermaid8]

Nice! Perfect timing, as I am trying to figure out the real reason that mine just contacted me tonight...I  just posted my scenerio as well...Anyway, that was funny and provided the laugh that I needed! 

[Cardinals in Flight]

Ditto, I was looking for the "like" icon again 

[truly amazed]

10- Missing you

9- Wants to apologise

8- Needs to tell you they are cured

7- Has won the lottery and wants to give it all to you

6- Seen the error of their ways and wants to make it up to you

5- Has decided to become a priest/ nun

4- Wants nothing just to do something nice for you

3- Found you needed closure and wants to speak to you in a rational way and help

2- Is being admitted to an institution to get help and just wanted you to know.

1- NONE OF THE ABOVE ... Because its all about them :}

Sorry cynical ... 

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[shatteredheart]

   LOL THis was a perfect thread for me to read...I agree Robhart! It's funny, truly amazed, the things u listed is what I always HOPE for , each time my X trys to contact me... but reading it on ur post made me LOL because the chance of that happening = next to impossible! Humor sometimes helps put it in perspective. Thanks.

[mermaid8]

   Gosh, I needed that tonight! ... LMAO!

[annbutterfly]

Soooo funny! Here are mine:

10.Needs to run something by you before he goes to his therapist ? ?

9. Needs to email your  parents telling them of his love for them and how he's sorry he was a disappointment

8. Needs to tell you he tried to commit suicide last night...(what? no 911 was called or any physical marks present?  :oLOL)

7.Needs to tell you that if you don't answer/reply "it's only going to get worse for you"

6.Needs your advice on matters with his kids

5. Needs to "show you all he's been working on"

4.Needs to tell you about new cures/therapies he's looking into to help his illness

3. Needs you to know that "he's not giving up what God put on this earth for him"

2. Needs to let you know he's engaged  

AND THE #1 REASON your BP EX contacts you...

1. To let you know that the email he sent about the engagement was meant for someone else..so sorry it will never happen again

It's a new year friends! To hell with these crazy loons! Let's all have a happy 2012! Hi!

[FriedaB]

10. Money

9.  Call from Jail

8.  Call from residential facility HI I BROKE MY HAND ON PURPOSE I THINK IM GOING TO OD ON SOME PILLS NOW...HELLO? HELLO? DONT YOU CARE?

7. To tell you they LOVE YOU SO BIG and never forgot about you all these years..and by the way...do you have any money?

6. Money

5. Burned all bridges again...in desparate need of backup.

4. Wants to rub the new one in your face They love them really BIG too!

3. Money *whines* pretty please?  

2. sympathy and attention..."I have to go to the doctor a lot..."

1. Mentally ill.

[anker]

there iss no such thing as a pocket dial from a BPD.

it should read:
1. pretending to pocket dial you, to see if you still will answer their calls

[artdeco]

10: homeless (ok so landlady didnt take too kindly to me trying to gas myself in her house)
9: no friends (now fancy that)
8: no money (ditto)
7: no car (police dont seem to approve of a car that has been refitted to look like the musters car)
6: lots of bills (mmmm no ambo cover and trip to emerg after said attempt on life)
5: no Job...
4: but i love you (and the last 5 woman as well)
3: Im in T (we live in hope)
2: family not helping (after 49 years of this I suppose enough is enought)
1: new gilrfriends are just as crazy as he is (and thats crazy! with a capital C)

[CaptainM]

   Thanks for the thread Robhart! My ex is really trying hard to move back into the "Pull" phase at the moment so I reckon I need to stick these up next to my monitor so I can tick them off and see if I can get a Bingo.

According to a text this evening, everything would've been okay if I'd just proposed to her. Yup - that makes sense. The abuse and infidelity definitely would've stopped when we got married! Maybe throw a few kids into the mix just to really make things 'better'?

Needless to say the text went unanswered. Going to need better bait for this fish.

[avoidatallcost]

haha good topic here's my list of why a BPD ex calls you, based on my experience:

1.  They need you for something they can't get from anyone else.

[ellil]

10. To ask you if his butt looks fat.
09. Wants to borrow some of your hobbies.
08. Asks you if he should shower today.
07. Asks you if you'd like the last piece of a week-old pizza laying on his floor.
06. Wants to borrow $50 so he can pay you back the $50 he owes you.
05. Wants to know if you'll give him a job reference.
04. Wants to know if you'll give him a job.
03. Wants to know if you still have a job.
02. Wants to know if you'll marry him so he doesn't HAVE TO get a job.
01. Wants to know your favorite love song so he can sing it to your replacement.



M

[ellil]

Ooops, one more: Asks to borrow a mirror so he can see what you look like.

M

[WalrusGumboot]

Good thread you started Robhart 

All the items in all the list are so true.

annbutterfly lists a number that I have experiencing.

1. Calls to tell you how wonderful their life is and the plans they have for the future. The words "how are you doing?" never proceed from their lips... because they don't really care.

[Neverknow]

1. Found out that her bills are not being paid.
2. Forgets that she left and wanted a divorce.
3. Wants you to speed up the divorce as she has met somebody new who wants to marry her.
4. Needs money.
5. Wants to accuse you of something crazy for old time's sake.
6. Can't remember any of her passwords and hopes you do.
7. Just called to let you know she has new boyfriend, and he is better looking and sexier than you.
8. Wants to have sex because it always worked before.
9. Is tired of living at her Mom's and wants to move back in.
10. Realizes you really are her soulmate.

[annbutterfly]

You guys are cracking me up! This all just made my day !
Walrus:

The words "how are you doing?" never proceed from their lips... because they don't really care.
 

...isn't that interesting? LOL
Ellil: Your post brought back to mind..
*come move in with me and let's put our money together so we can pay "MY debt" off. Telling me and my friends how broke he is and his money situation is desolate! Might even have to become a custodian at the local school to make ends meet. But low and behold only days after our break up we show up with 2 new camaros, then a new luxury car for the new GF (who has money too BTW)   . I love this site...I love to find humor in the crazy things they do. I know some days are filled with despair due to the hell they put us through, but guys we HAVE to just find humor in their insanity and train our minds not to let it bother us!

Have a wonderful day...annie Hi!

[annbutterfly]

Neverknow:

Realizes you really are her soulmate.

Isn't it funny how they always have an "epiphany" that you're NOW their soulmate? Or "I know you are the one God put on this earth for me" "I wish you could see inside my heart"
Hilarious!

[Neverknow]

Neverknow:

Realizes you really are her soulmate.

Isn't it funny how they always have an "epiphany" that you're NOW their soulmate? Or "I know you are the one God put on this earth for me" "I wish you could see inside my heart"
Hilarious!

Mine is actually moving out today.  She just up and said she wanted a divorce (again) and I said okay.  She then proceeded to tell me that the problem was she loved me too much and I couldn't love her enough.

So last night, she is packing and in a pretty good mood and we hug and agree to try and remain friends.  I go to bed about eleven, in the other room.  Then, at midnight, she comes in, wakes me up, and shows me her smartphone and some website she says she has found that shows I have a savings account in it with $7000 in it and home equity loan (mind you neither she nor I own a home).  She rages and calls me a liar when I tell her I don't know anything about it and slams the door as she leaves.

I have no doubt that I will actually get contacted by her for one of the reasons I listed.  

[Karen53164]

     OMG truly amazed, that was spot on and hilarious cause its so damn true!  At least we can laugh about some of it now, because at the time we were experiencing all this, we couldn't grasp what was going on.  And its so true they dont hardly ever ask how you are and the common theme is its always about them--how they feel , how they look , what they want or need.  We instinctively know that normal people dont act this way or would not respond so horribley but because we bought into how they were in the beginning it makes it hard to see them for how they are over time.  I'm so glad I found this site.  It is the only thing keeping me sane.