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VIDEO: Could it be Borderline Personality Disorder? 17 million people in the US are affected by Borderline Personality Disorder or BPD traits.This is a disorder of extreme fear of rejection and limited executive function. People suffering with these traits of this disorder often have a lifetime of unstable relationships. This video describes the disorder in detail.
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« on: February 17, 2012, 05:27:37 AM »

Hi,

Is it common or possible for a pwBPD to learn to self-validate and to self-soothe in all cases if it's necessary? Is that the point/end result of DBT, etc.?  Or will it always be up to me as long as I choose to be in this relationship?  I'm sorry if this is one of those questions that has been asked and answered many times before.  There's a lot of information to absorb here.
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« Reply #1 on: February 17, 2012, 01:28:14 PM »

Self-soothing is one of the skills taught in DBT. In the Distress Tolerance module.

The wikipedia article on DBT is (currently, anyway) pretty good at listing what it contains:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dialectical_behavior_therapy
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Have you read the Lessons?

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« Reply #2 on: February 17, 2012, 02:11:28 PM »

Thank you.
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