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« Reply #10 on: February 21, 2012, 03:17:40 PM »


I don't know I guess like a lot of us here I'm still in utter shock over what happened.. I'm just trying to understand how after loving so much and giving so much to someone getting so very little in return.  No matter how much I tried to avoid conflict, she was always able to get me enraged and make me look like the crazy one. 

Avoidatallcost, these people are crazy. How else can you explain away their crazy actions? These pwBPDs are extremely dangerous in that they appear normal in every other way. To the outside world, her ordinary friends and coworkers, she may appear very intelligent, sweet and considerate. It is only with those who are very close to her that she will show her real and ugly face.

I know my expwBPD for over 10 years, and had been close for the last 2 years (She visited me very week for a whole year), and I still didn't see anything unusual about her at all. It was only during last year when we got emotinally very close that her craziness started to appear. There is no other explanations for her crazy actions except for mental illnesses. It fact by the end of our r/s, she claimed that she was speaking for GOD.
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« Reply #11 on: February 21, 2012, 03:25:06 PM »

Stone, do you think she was afflicted by some kind of paranoid schizophrenia-like condition?
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« Reply #12 on: February 21, 2012, 04:04:56 PM »

Stone, do you think she was afflicted by some kind of paranoid schizophrenia-like condition?

I am not sure, but I don't think so because from what I have read from all the materials online (and in prints), she fits the profile of a pwBPD exactly.

She has all 3 risk factors as well as 7 out of the 9 indicia for BPD. She has this craving for attachment. She also has this fear of abandonment and engulfment. Everyime when we get to be close, she will find something to push me away. The first time she clalimed that I was triggering her PTSD. She wouldn't speak to me for well over a week. The second time when I told her that I think she was using me. She broke off for about a month, and accused me with all kinds of abusive words and twisted every word I said to her. The 3rd time she just accused me of being insensitive to her feeling because I did exactly what she asked me to do, ie. to help her with her child's special education program with the school district. She then accused me of abandoning her, and cut me off. That was over 5 months ago. She had been very cruel to me ever since (I have written in my replies to other posts).
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« Reply #13 on: February 21, 2012, 04:13:48 PM »

Avoidatallcost,

I think, had our r/s continued a little bit longer, she would have told me that she is GOD!
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« Reply #14 on: February 21, 2012, 06:27:31 PM »

Avoidatallcost,

I think, had our r/s continued a little bit longer, she would have told me that she is GOD!

You know Stone, while I'm still on the fence about just how crazy my BP ex really was, I think it's safe to say yours is way out there!
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