I don't know I guess like a lot of us here I'm still in utter shock over what happened.. I'm just trying to understand how after loving so much and giving so much to someone getting so very little in return. No matter how much I tried to avoid conflict, she was always able to get me enraged and make me look like the crazy one.
Avoidatallcost, these people are crazy. How else can you explain away their crazy actions? These pwBPDs are extremely dangerous in that they appear normal in every other way. To the outside world, her ordinary friends and coworkers, she may appear very intelligent, sweet and considerate. It is only with those who are very close to her that she will show her real and ugly face.
I know my expwBPD for over 10 years, and had been close for the last 2 years (She visited me very week for a whole year), and I still didn't see anything unusual about her at all. It was only during last year when we got emotinally very close that her craziness started to appear. There is no other explanations for her crazy actions except for mental illnesses. It fact by the end of our r/s, she claimed that she was speaking for GOD.