She thinks I have BPD

[Think About It...]

I confided in her mom about this a week ago and she seemed to agree with me. Found out today that her mom told her that I said that to her and now she thinks that I am the with BPD.

[sirhero]

I confided in her mom about this a week ago and she seemed to agree with me. Found out today that her mom told her that I said that to her and now she thinks that I am the with BPD.

[Steph]

 Thats ok...she gets to think whatever she wants.

Has she told you why she thinks this?

[Kifazes]

Ever since my BPDbf found out he has BPD, he constantly accuses me of being the one with BPD.
I let him think what he wants (I used to fight it, not so much anymore, it really has no use).

If I raise my voice because he's upstairs, I am "raging", and so on. For every term that is used among the BPD world, he can put it on me... He just doesn't see how bad it is when he's doing it.
So maybe when he's "raging" to me, in his head, he's only raising his voice?

Good luck to you my friend, don't let it get under your skin
Whenever you need a sanity check, we're here ^^

[hell0kitty]

My boyfriend's exBPD was reading Walking on Eggshells at work in front of him and accuses him of all of the abusive things SHE actually did to him when they worked together.  (Even though he was totally suffering from PTSD after he finally got away from her.  Afraid of his own shadow now after five years of her craziness.) 
I believe this is fairly common.  They like to project.  She has seriously abused him, and victimized him in every way possible, but she really believes she is the abuse survivor and that he is the BPD person. 
I would try not to get to worked up about it, but I understand.  Every time I hear about her getting involved with another abuse survivor group and telling people how he made her the victim of DV, it makes me want to make her an actual victim of domestic violence. (Not for real, but man, that lady knows how to push buttons. Grrrrrrrr...)

[sirhero]

No not really. She does think most of the arguments are my fault(and some are of course). But I've never done the stuff she has done. Talking about suicide, not taking fault for anything, verbally abusing her...rarely do I call her names when we argued and if I did, I was at the breaking point at the time. I never tell her she doesn't care or love me, I don't guilt trip her. I've lied a few times that's about it, but it was never anything serious.

I understand that I need to work on myself, cause there are better ways I could tackle the impending arguments. I see them coming, but once they arrive I am blind sided and go on the defensive and once or twice the offensive. But no she didn't list any reasons.

She still won't let me come back home and I told her I need to focus on finding a place then and would probably cut a lot of contact with her or go NC(sorry I'm rambling now).

[sirhero]

My boyfriend's exBPD was reading Walking on Eggshells at work in front of him and accuses him of all of the abusive things SHE actually did to him when they worked together.  (Even though he was totally suffering from PTSD after he finally got away from her.  Afraid of his own shadow now after five years of her craziness.) 
I believe this is fairly common.  They like to project.  She has seriously abused him, and victimized him in every way possible, but she really believes she is the abuse survivor and that he is the BPD person. 
I would try not to get to worked up about it, but I understand.  Every time I hear about her getting involved with another abuse survivor group and telling people how he made her the victim of DV, it makes me want to make her an actual victim of domestic violence. (Not for real, but man, that lady knows how to push buttons. Grrrrrrrr...)

She's done some off the wall stuff I don't even want to bring up. I tried to before with her and basically tried to deny it so I don't even try anymore. She brings up past events a lot in our arguments and in our current situation now, but everytime I try to go back to some she's done it's no use. So I've stopped trying to defend and or justify myself, I can't change what she wants to believe. Think I'll just confide in you guys from here on out.