Suffering from the FOG

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Left this weekend, suffering greatly from FOG.  Really bizarre happenings.  Left Saturday 2/25.  BPD wife went into "treatment" hospital on 2/24 to be "safe", I guess from suicide, tried once before and threatened many times.  Now I am the "guilty" party again, because she is in hospital because I am leaving.  This comes after weeks of her trying to "bond" with former boyfriend from years ago, even wanting to "bed" him to use a more tasteful phrase.  I found out about the weeks of emailing back and forth, she left email open one night in a drunken stupor and I read them. My bad but what would any husband of 35 years do, yes 35 years of "BPD bliss".  Now the bizarre part is I am staying at my old house while she is in the hospital because nobody else can take care of the cat.  The FOG has got me.  Luckily, I talked to my two daughters, grown and gone, and they support me.  They left with me five years ago and we had an apartment and I made the mistake of coming back 1 1/2 yrs ago after they graduated from college and got their own places.  I probably would still be there if it wasn't for the internet cheating.  You can't make this stuff up.

[dupchek4me]

Left this weekend, suffering greatly from FOG.  Really bizarre happenings.  Left Saturday 2/25.  BPD wife went into "treatment" hospital on 2/24 to be "safe", I guess from suicide, tried once before and threatened many times.  Now I am the "guilty" party again, because she is in hospital because I am leaving.  This comes after weeks of her trying to "bond" with former boyfriend from years ago, even wanting to "bed" him to use a more tasteful phrase.  I found out about the weeks of emailing back and forth, she left email open one night in a drunken stupor and I read them. My bad but what would any husband of 35 years do, yes 35 years of "BPD bliss".  Now the bizarre part is I am staying at my old house while she is in the hospital because nobody else can take care of the cat.  The FOG has got me.  Luckily, I talked to my two daughters, grown and gone, and they support me.  They left with me five years ago and we had an apartment and I made the mistake of coming back 1 1/2 yrs ago after they graduated from college and got their own places.  I probably would still be there if it wasn't for the internet cheating.  You can't make this stuff up.

[WillThisGetBetter]

I'm so sorry

[marbleloser]

 I'm sorry too.Now,screw the cat and take care of yourself. Print the emails if you can,if for no other reason than to keep things clear in your head. I repeat,take care of YOU.

[jessicapuppy]

Hi there Dupchek4me

How are you feeling about what has happened?  Do you have feelings of guilt, anger, relief etc?

I would imagine that all sorts of things are running through your head at the moment?

JP
 

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