Today, I got raged at because uNPDh's cell phone wouldn't log into our home network, and it was (obviously) my fault... I must have done something to it
Anyways, boundaries were not an option, as he was hovering behind me leaning past me using the computer that I was seated at, trying to figure it out while raging -I honestly don't think he was trying to block me, it was just the unfortunate affect of his posture.
Well, I used the crisis management skills we discussed over the last few weeks, and I just kept validating and occasionally asking him to try to keep calm and we could work it out together- I asked him what he thought I had done, and while we figured out that it wasn't a result of my misspelling my own name (an honest possibility for what may have gone wrong
) we never did figure out what had happened. I'd say I was at least half successful, in that I did manage to get him out of raging eventually- though there would have been no preventing the rage from happening in my case with validation.
I just kept saying things like "Yeah, that's frustrating- I'm frustrated too; what can we do about this?" and eventually he realized, I suppose that I didn't do it because I am out to get him... frustrating, indeed.
