My BPDw's group of friends that validate her are her family. She calls them her only support. Yeah support to her basically means someone(s) who just agrees with her and never makes her wrong/accountable. Sad.
I hear ya...my sis-in-law ripped into me (via text) for things that did not occur, but reported to her by my BPDw. Did not even bother "to get my side" (ie. the truth), but my counselor said that I don't have to Justify Argue Defend or Explain (JADE applies to everyone, not just the person wBPD. Gotta admit, that part is very frustrating, but I'm sticking with it.