It is interesting to note that if I do take time to rephrase or probe a bit to confirm/clarify info from my wife, I invariably get "are you stupid/deaf or do you think I am stupid/deaf?" words/body language.
Thats the response I get.
I also get the question, and my answer is supposed to be either Yes or No. No explaination or clrification. Sometimes questions cant be answered yes or no, but as he says, he is not interested in a "story" (he calls it, he just want s the answer.
As for rewriting the outcome of a discussion, which is what I think your wife is doing Maligned, and I also think she is possibly wording her discussions with you to get you hooked for a drama later. (Just a thought).
I get the same thing.
H will pull me into "sharing" some issue/project and then when a fair amount of my time (and sometimes money) is invested in contributing to a decision, he goes ahead and does something different and claims ingnorance over our initial plans that were agreed on.
It ranges from anything from - when I can use the car, fix our bikes, pay the bills, and today it was doing the decking in the back yard.
Oh well...I choose to stay.