I only wish I could get 5 minutes of the intimate chatter from her that will probably go for an hour yet - unless I interrupt it.
I used to get jealous of the tone and happy character of my wife's phone talk with others. Once I even mentioned it to her, and got something like "well they're
fun to talk to" (ouch). Couldn't help thinking "well I'd be a lot more fun to talk to if you talked to me like that."
After awhile I realized it wasn't what it seemed to be, though. If she was actually close to someone, BPD conflicts were inevitable. It was only with people who "didn't matter" that she could be so light and easy sounding. And who knows how much of it was a show - for me ("see, I get along with other
people"), or even for herself.
say that her behavior on that score has improved since she's had some therapy.)