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bengaltropicat

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« on: March 04, 2012, 05:23:31 PM »
What a dream..

I dreamed he was the guy I met and fell in love with over 30 years ago.
When I woke up I felt good but I also was clear that he is not the guy he is today.
Regardless of who he was then and how our relationship was then, neither the person or the relationship has been on God's green earth for more than 29 years. 

It was actually kind of a nice thing to dream about even though I know it is not true. 

I've just joined some dating sites and I think that might have something to do with it.  I don't cry or get teary when I think about our life together anymore. 
I'm six months divorced and have no desire to go back to that ugly place. 
I also have no sympathy for the devil; while I didn't cause it, can't control it and can't cure it; he can.  And he choses not to. Oh well, his loss...
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« Reply #1 on: March 04, 2012, 07:44:27 PM »
Hey smiley

It sounds like you are subconsciously dealing with things, it's your brains way of organising and cataloguing. I am glad you were able to not cry or get teary over it. It is nice that you are able to remember the good but to also balance them with the other 29 years.
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bengaltropicat

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« Reply #2 on: March 04, 2012, 08:57:23 PM »
Thank you Little Milly,I was trying to understand it and you provided insight.
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