Kinda dating... ?

[Think About It...]

I started to go out with this woman.  We have had some "dates" and so far NO red flags.  Trust me I have been looking for them!   She was in a relationship that was abusive so we can relate on many levels.

One refreshing thing she said to me the other day...I had to do something for my son...and she said "I understand...stop saying sorry to me."  I then realized I did say sorry way too much.  I guess I have been conditioned to do that and I really need to break that.  I told her that meant a lot to me that she understood and she said your son is important to you and he should be!

Right now...just enjoying her company and healthy conversation and interactions.

Quite refreshing!   Life is good!
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[OTB]

I started to go out with this woman.  We have had some "dates" and so far NO red flags.  Trust me I have been looking for them!   She was in a relationship that was abusive so we can relate on many levels.

One refreshing thing she said to me the other day...I had to do something for my son...and she said "I understand...stop saying sorry to me."  I then realized I did say sorry way too much.  I guess I have been conditioned to do that and I really need to break that.  I told her that meant a lot to me that she understood and she said your son is important to you and he should be!

Right now...just enjoying her company and healthy conversation and interactions.

Quite refreshing!   Life is good!
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[Want2know]

I became very aware of saying I'm sorry a lot to my xunpdbf.  I even wrote it in my last note to him last week as I bid adieu to him for good.  It's a phrase that is used to display sorrow or regret.  In my case, it was sorrow that I was expressing in that note, however, there have been times when it's been said with some regret...regret I couldn't fix a situation even though it was not mine to fix.  

Glad to hear you've found someone who you can relate to, and has not displayed any   .

 

[soren]

I understand saying sorry all the time.  I do it with my wife.  Her son from her first marraige used to say he was sorry all the time and my wife wud say "why are u sorry?".  I met her when he was 3.  She used to rage at him for the most minor things so he was conditioned to Im sorry.  I was conditioned as well.  I never knew how she would respsond in scituations.  Something I think she would get mad at she wouldnt and other things I didnt think she would get mad at she did.  One thing is for sure, BPD's are very predictable in their unpredictableness!