Any movie/TV show suggestions for kids to ID unaccaptable behavior?

[Think About It....]

My D8's T has suggested finding movies that enforce proper behavior of men with their children and GF/wife...or, conversely, identify mentally/physically-abusive behavior as unacceptable.

Anyone have suggestions? This came up when D expressed to me that all men are mean, scary and break things when they get mad or sad (like my stbx)...since I have no man in my life now to show her otherwise, movies/tv seem a method that may resonate with D. (strongly opposed to productive therapy due to some hard core brainwashing from the enemy camp )

Thanks!

[doryswimsagain]

My D8's T has suggested finding movies that enforce proper behavior of men with their children and GF/wife...or, conversely, identify mentally/physically-abusive behavior as unacceptable.

Anyone have suggestions? This came up when D expressed to me that all men are mean, scary and break things when they get mad or sad (like my stbx)...since I have no man in my life now to show her otherwise, movies/tv seem a method that may resonate with D. (strongly opposed to productive therapy due to some hard core brainwashing from the enemy camp )

Thanks!

[Pilate]

Good role models (and I'm dating myself):
Family Ties
Cosby Show
Dick Van Dyke (all these are on cable in regular repetition or you can check out episodes at a library)

Bad Role Models
Everybody Loves Raymond (lots of yelling and manipulation to have needs met)

[JustSaying]

I agree with Cosby and Family Ties. D watched Full House, too. Hannah Montana wasn't bad.

For movies, Parent Trap does ok.

Can probably be left unsaid, but...not Ally McBeal. At least not till she's 18. 

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[Althea]

Little House on the Prarie!  Her age, she will likely get sucked into the series.  Love it.   

[beyondbelief]

Hook with Robin Williams.  Peter Pan story...Father goes through a lot to rescue kids.

[doryswimsagain]

Can probably be left unsaid, but...not Ally McBeal. At least not till she's 18. 

Gotcha     

Thanks, I needed that!

[Rose1]

Now this is interesting - I can only think of movies that show bad behaviour. Definitely not "Everyone loves Raymond" - that reminds me of my exBPDmil.

He might be a bit young but "To kill a Mockingbird" was great - kids growing up in a single father household with a very principled loving dad, during a period of great stress in the South.

[DreamGirl]

Hey there Dory.

Finding Nemo has a really good dad in it.  

I think this is really interesting advice. Quick search on the net, and I found these recommendations - with corresponding age appropriate suggestions:

http://www.commonsensemedia.org/movie-lists/movie-dads

http://www.commonsensemedia.org/movie-lists/Best-Dad-Daughter-Movies.html

My favorite kid movie of all time is Because of Winn Dixie:

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0317132/

It's based on the book, protaganist is a 10 year girl whose Dad (Jeff Bridges) is a preacher. Best part is Dave Matthews is in it... and he sings.  

[ForeverDad]

How about books?
What (normal) Dads Can't Do
What (normal) Moms Can't Do

[doryswimsagain]

I. Love. This. Forum. 

Thanks!

Dreamgirl, so funny! We just got Wynn Dixie a while back and LOVED it.  Yes, a very good one, and ditto on Dave! *Sigh*
I especially liked that Jeff Bridge's character does not attack the character of the abandoning mother, but rather emphasizes her positive traits.  Great websites, too, thanks a ton!

Rose, I completely agree about Everybody Loves Raymond. Yick.

FD, these are great. Books are a huge weakness of mine...dying to throw those into the 'ol Amazon cart...just gotta get paid first   

[little doggy]

Hiya, really good topic. Absolutely agree with Finding Nemo and To Kill a Mockingbird. On the bad side consider "Tangled". Even my D7 could see inappropriate behaviours in the "mother" role and I could have a chat to her about better behaviours.

[Rhymes w/Orange]

We recently watched the Puss in Boots movie, and I personally got upset about the humpty dumpty character. First he was bad, then good, then bad, then good. Way too confusing for a little kid, I think. Maybe I'm just hyper-sensitive due to current situations with BPD...

RWO

[doryswimsagain]

Agreed on "Tangled."
Haven't Seen Puss in Boots, yet.

I did find another explicit example of abusive behavior that is unacceptable to put away for when Ds get older. It's called "No One Would Tell" with Candace Cameron (Full House) and Fred Savage (Wonder Years). True highschool story of a physically/mentally/emotionally abusive bf.  Ends in homocide. Wacthed it w/o the kids recently, and there were some very alarming similarities to my marriage 

My biggest fear for Ds is that they will seek out men later who mimic their dad's behavior.

[Rose1]

Interesting - from a longer out perspective I enjoyed Puss in Boots and the Humpty character didn't trigger me. progress! I thought he was extremely well drawn and obviously a PD of some sort - that sweet, not my fault smile just before he does something else bad. I liked Jack and Jill - totally different to how I always pictured them. 

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