About 2-3 months ago, my girlfriend and I of a mere 2 months broke up. She had BPD. And this is where I need help:
After breaking up with me, she started hooking up with this other guy (whom she was not nearly as close with), leaving me out to dry, really. When she initially broke up with me, she did so because she knew that she had a problem with relationships, and sought out to get better. I accepted this and although I was hurt, I was okay with this. However, when we went back to college, she started hooking up with this other guy and I became extremely jealous of him, and I wasn't the most supportive ex-boyfriend. Then, after about a month of turmoil, I came to the conclusion that it is best that I do my own thing, but be there for if she needs help.
And after I gained that mentality, I tried to portray it to her, and it was, I guess, successful. And she had recently gone to see help in which she was diagnosed with BPD as well as a few other things.
In the past few weeks, however, she had an attempted suicide, at which point she was hospitilized, and after being released that night she ended up calling me, at which point i happened to be up at the most random time in the night.
Now, she is on psychiactric leave from college, and is back home getting help. I have yet to be "painted black," it appears, for we talked the other day and everything seemed fine, and was willing to talk. However I have been reading, and is it better for me to be there for her and support her through her recovery? Or should I leave the situation entirely. Which ever one would help her more is what I want to do.
I am also much closer to her than the other dude she was hooking up with after me.
At this point i just want what's best for her.