At the End of my Tether

[Think About It....]

Brilliant outcome Reality, a shortish lived trauma then, haha and what happens to us each time we get these, we sink, then we are up again.
How could they arrest her? what for I mean. Dont think they would do that in UK. Well done, I mean if you look at your first post on this thread it seemed so hopeless and well, scarey really. Your hubby wasnt even home and its such a good outcome.
By the way, if youve noticed I havent been on for a few days, well the knitting bugs got me now  
Gosh, dont know what to do first, knit, read or campaign for some psycho enducation on BPD in UK, haha

BTW, You know my dds x bf who beet her up three times, the Police just went and spoke to him, no arrest or anything. Unbelievable I think

[heronbird]

Brilliant outcome Reality, a shortish lived trauma then, haha and what happens to us each time we get these, we sink, then we are up again.
How could they arrest her? what for I mean. Dont think they would do that in UK. Well done, I mean if you look at your first post on this thread it seemed so hopeless and well, scarey really. Your hubby wasnt even home and its such a good outcome.
By the way, if youve noticed I havent been on for a few days, well the knitting bugs got me now  
Gosh, dont know what to do first, knit, read or campaign for some psycho enducation on BPD in UK, haha

BTW, You know my dds x bf who beet her up three times, the Police just went and spoke to him, no arrest or anything. Unbelievable I think

[Reality]

heronbird,
How did you know to remind me that our darlings' lives can turn on a dime and change in a blink?On Monday, my son met a seemingly nice girl at his DBT Skills Training and because she has graduated, they are now allowed to see each other socially.  Yesterday, he washed all his clothes, showered, wanted to talk to me for hours before he met this girl downtown (I think he was a little anxious) and told me he wanted to take her on a date, a date?that sounds normal and he looked very good as he left.  Coming home, he wanted to talk about his evening at the movies for an hour.  The young lady has a full-time job with the government and she wanted her dad to meet my son!  What a change!
If someone had told me that this change could have happened in less than a week, I would never have believed it.  It makes me realize how vulnerable our darlings are and that they need protection from pernicious influences.  If the environment is black, our darlings will turn black in an instant.  With a halfway decent person and environment, they turn sweet in a second.
Thank you so much, heronbird, for your wisdom.  You have helped me so much.
Reality

[qcarolr]

Reality -   Doing the Right Thing - for both you and your dh for the courage to intervene in a toxic situation, and for your DS who continues to move forward in his life. And it is so great when they are able to do all that talking talking and we are able to be there to just listen listen.

qcr

[GameGirl]

  It was a stop-gap measure to see if my son can control himself now and to see if he continues to be motivated to do DBT.  He has attended Skills Training and therapy religiously for two months, always planning ahead with his sleep problem about how he will manage that so he can go to the sessions. 

Hi

Just got a chance to read this thread and I wanted to say that this is a very, very good sign.  Two months is a long time for a BPD to stick to anything, and DBT is not easy work.  He does sound motivated.

[Sadforson]

Great moves reality!  Practical, direct, limited intervention with right timing creating a space for better behavior.  Useful to watch in action.  Thank you for giving us the blow by blow.  I learned alot. 

[heronbird]

Good one Reality,

That is amazing isnt it wow. So good, if it was my dd, she would also come to a point of saying to me, Thankyou for helping me out I dodnt know what I was getting myself into there and this is a much better situation.
Then I feel shocked because i would of been so worried about getting that lady sorted out properly as my dd would of been cross with me. Hope you know what I mean.

Its  such a brilliant result. You deserve a medal, by the way, Im still waiting for mine. We should get some shouldnt we
 

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