I blacked out when she abandon me

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when my ex bp gf abandon me i blacked out and printed up 6 flyers putting them on her neighbours cars.stating that a tramp was in the neighourhood.that would sleep with there hubbies.and how she slep with my friends(lie).I just wanted to hurt her for all that she has done to me.I was wrong but i wanted to make her feel how she made me feel.This is who she made me become.

[lenny136]

when my ex bp gf abandon me i blacked out and printed up 6 flyers putting them on her neighbours cars.stating that a tramp was in the neighourhood.that would sleep with there hubbies.and how she slep with my friends(lie).I just wanted to hurt her for all that she has done to me.I was wrong but i wanted to make her feel how she made me feel.This is who she made me become.

[FriedaB]

  it  happens...just  go  NC  from  here  out.  We've  all  had  our  less  than  proud  moments.  You  put  flyers  out  calling  her  a  tramp...I  put  up  one  for  her  too...it said  "car  for   sale"  .  Not  one  of  my  prouder  moments  but  I  had  kinda  hit  my  limit  after  12  years of  abuse  and  s**t.   

[lenny136]

she hurt me

[FriedaB]

*hugs*  I know  she  did  Lenny.  Its  who  they  are  and  what  they  do.  What  are  you  doing  for  yourself  during  this  difficult  time?  Sometimes  I  find  having  a  distraction  helps...going  to  the  gym,  getting  out  with  a  friend,  even  just  getting  out  of  house.  Im  sorry  for  your  pain...I  know  it  hurts  like  hell  right  now...hang  in  there 

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[lenny136]

why does it not than the hurt comes back

[dah1029]

Lenny--  It's an awful thing to go through.  You had so many dreams planned for the 2 of you.  I was just talking to a  friend tonight about this.  It's so upsetting to us to lose all our dreams.  And to feel like our partner has died.  To go from living in each other's pockets to being so cheaply discarded is awful.  We're thrown out like last night's garbage.  It's awful to realize that this person didn't love us, but rather, used us.  And then we blame ourselves wondering what we did wrong?  How could we have been so deceived?  How can we get them back when they don't want to come back?  Obsessing for answers drives you crazy.  Keep posting here.  People will help you get back on your feet.

[lenny136]

thanx