Was your child ever bullied?

[Think About It....]

J'sfriend and heronbird mentioned that their children were bullied when younger.  My son told me recently that hewas bullied repeatedly when he was 10 and 11 and he was sobbing as he told me.  I am interested to know how many of ours experienced this kind of violence? 
Reality

[Reality]

J'sfriend and heronbird mentioned that their children were bullied when younger.  My son told me recently that hewas bullied repeatedly when he was 10 and 11 and he was sobbing as he told me.  I am interested to know how many of ours experienced this kind of violence? 
Reality

[ontherox]

My dd19 was bullied in junior high to point where we transferred her to a private school for high school. Looking back on it now with our better knowledge of her BPD we realized that she was not picking up pretty obvious social norms.  One thing she didn’t get the hang of was staying away for other girls boyfriends.  She is very pretty and has no problem talking to boys.  She said she would just be talking not trying to pick them up or anything, but of course the other girls didn’t like that and would just let her have it.  There were some unbelievably bad myspace comments and excluding her from social events etc.  But dd would keep doing it stubbornly asking why it was a big deal!  It was very frustrating. The private school was all girls so we figured that would help and it did to some extent.  She still had it tough socially though.

[seekinglight]

My daughter also was bullied, but in many ways did taunt the others.

Also beautiful, also a flirt,

[Thursday]

I've asked my SD about this. She reports being teased and bullied throughout most of elementary school. 

Her Dad doesn't recall ever hearing that she was being bullied. SD was an overweight little kid, crazy thick curly hair and she is very pale with freckles. (bonnie Irish looking lass!)  I've always wondered if she got any help to cope with the bullying (from her Mom who died when she was 12) or if her Mom was such a fan that SD was reluctant to tell her about the teasing...shame? Mom told her how wonderful she was and others told her otherwise? I honestly have wondered if bullying was one of the root causes of her PD.

 It seems to me that now she has strange bugaboos about different parts of her, she hates her hair (so gorgeous!) and she has done such battle with her eyebrows there is nothing left of them now. I've seen her punching her belly and thighs and clothes shopping with her was such a misery I haven't participated in this for many years.

It is an interesting question.

thursday

[mikmik]

Bullying started in middle school, just as some of the symptoms began to emerge.  Tangled up with depression over father choosing to move to a different state after being overseas for work (three years) vs coming back home to her.  She felt dad chose the other woman over her.  I think that was the match that lit the fuse of BPD.  Her sense of self worth plumeted. It was like the kids sensed her vulnerability and went in for the kill.  It was awful.

However, I think a lot kids are teased, but the teasing moves to bullying when a vulnerability is detected, a weakness.  The kids with these vulnerabilities are easily spotted by trained adults (let's be honest, are internal radar picks out these kids too), but the adults don't protect the kids, and the bullies are smart and don't often do the act within eye or ear of adults.  I don't know how this abhorent behavior will ever end.

mikmik