Did you find you got sick a lot?

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I swear that during my relationship with my exBPDbf I got sick a lot.  I was very healthy and never went to the doctors.  During my relationship I can't even begin to count how many times I got sick.  Let me list:

1.  Pneumonia (3 times)
2.  Sinus Infections (6 plus times)
3.  Urinary tract infections (so many can't even count!)
4.  Stomach ache / upset stomach (it always happened on the weekends that I would see him - had to take pepto bismol)
5.  Back problems (6 weeks of physical therapy after that 3 times)
6.  Hot flashes (thought it was perimenopause...seems to have gone away with him)
7.  Panic attacks (moments of anxiety - always happened when he was around)
8.  Sleeping problems - had to take sleeping pills for a while


That is to name a few as I am sure I will think of more.  Since the break up, granted it has been tough but, once the anxiety attacks were over which happened right after the break up, I have been symptom free.  If we stayed together I would have not only fallen apart emotionally but physically too.  Amazing the stress they put on us that we don't even realize.

[Beenreplaced]

I swear that during my relationship with my exBPDbf I got sick a lot.  I was very healthy and never went to the doctors.  During my relationship I can't even begin to count how many times I got sick.  Let me list:

1.  Pneumonia (3 times)
2.  Sinus Infections (6 plus times)
3.  Urinary tract infections (so many can't even count!)
4.  Stomach ache / upset stomach (it always happened on the weekends that I would see him - had to take pepto bismol)
5.  Back problems (6 weeks of physical therapy after that 3 times)
6.  Hot flashes (thought it was perimenopause...seems to have gone away with him)
7.  Panic attacks (moments of anxiety - always happened when he was around)
8.  Sleeping problems - had to take sleeping pills for a while


That is to name a few as I am sure I will think of more.  Since the break up, granted it has been tough but, once the anxiety attacks were over which happened right after the break up, I have been symptom free.  If we stayed together I would have not only fallen apart emotionally but physically too.  Amazing the stress they put on us that we don't even realize.

[jodie123]

I had exaxctly the same issue, illnesses that I'd never had before and have already started to go away like eczema, asthma, panic attacks, sleeplessness, flu and viruses...

People used to tell me it was stress and Id just say no i dont feel stressed, I like my job, im generally happy but I think it was definitely the ups and downs and stress of being with a pwBPD.

[Sofie]

I did not get physical problems, but I became a slob with my health - did not eat properly, did not exercise, way too much coffee and alcohol and far too little sleep. I am aware that this was my own responsibility, of course - since I have always been looking after myself before my relationship with exBPD, though, it is just pretty symptomatic of the depressed mental state I think I was in looking back.

The worst thing, though, was that I developed social anxiety when I was with exBPD - fear of being with other people than my closest friends, of answering the phone, of social situations in general. (Not so good when a great deal of your job consists of meeting new people!)
I think it was stress-induced by always being in alarm mode waiting for the next crisis/blow-up to happen.

[whatarideout]

If we stayed together I would have not only fallen apart emotionally but physically too. 

i feel the exact same way.

near the end of the relationship, it got to the point i could hardly eat because the nausea would surface. i had to leave the table at times without touching my food.

there was so much anxiety built up, it had to be expressed some how.

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[kimbers43]

Being on edge messes with you bodies fight or flight instincts. You will stop eating and burn up your nervous energy so in turn fall ill and become tired and jaded.

[Time for a change]

I found that I would have zero energy all the time. People have said to me since that i never looked happy. I was fighting so many battles all the time. I would get lots of colds. I also remember being really ill towards the end of the year. Some days I couldnt get out of bed, even walking five minutes down the road would make me really exausted. This carried on for two weeks i went for blood tests and noyhing came back. I think that I was so tired that my body shut down. I think they can make you seriously ill.

[Time for a change]

Also before I went NC my ex told me her new guy was off work ill and he was blaming her. She said it in a way of disbelief, I think he was drinking heavy too. Made me laugh that she made him sick so quick.

[redberry]

Yes, I was sick a lot.  Fatigued. I was drinking more and getting into some things I shouldn't have.  I wasn't resting enough or sleeping well.  I had anxiety, depression--others told me I looked miserable, tired, stressed...  I was all of the above.