Wow what an outcome

[Think About It...]

She called me last night and I stupidly answered the phone. She apologized for EVERYTHING wrong she did to me. Said she isn't with anyone else they were just trying to make some girl he likes jealous (like I'd believe that). Just crying on the phone, I've never heard her cry like this before, it was actually sad. I think she just realized the mistake she made with the choices she has made recently and that I was really serious about leaving her this time. I told her I have very little trust in her at the moment. Anyways I went over afterwards and she went on to apologize again..I wasn't very receptive to it.

Said she never meant to hurt me, she never planned to hurt me, never stopped loving me etc. Like I said above, was never dating that guy. Which I still don't believe as that just doesn't make any sense and seems like a real childish thing to do trying to make someone jealous. I'm not sure what I want to do at this point. We're suppose to talk tonight and she's suppose to tell me everything, but we'll see. I feel a bit indifferent about the situation at the moment. I still love and care about her, but she really hurt me this time.

I'm glad she's done blaming me for everything and admitting that the constant let downs in her life are not my fault. She also said she's going to seek counseling maybe that will be the deciding factor.

[sirhero]

She called me last night and I stupidly answered the phone. She apologized for EVERYTHING wrong she did to me. Said she isn't with anyone else they were just trying to make some girl he likes jealous (like I'd believe that). Just crying on the phone, I've never heard her cry like this before, it was actually sad. I think she just realized the mistake she made with the choices she has made recently and that I was really serious about leaving her this time. I told her I have very little trust in her at the moment. Anyways I went over afterwards and she went on to apologize again..I wasn't very receptive to it.

Said she never meant to hurt me, she never planned to hurt me, never stopped loving me etc. Like I said above, was never dating that guy. Which I still don't believe as that just doesn't make any sense and seems like a real childish thing to do trying to make someone jealous. I'm not sure what I want to do at this point. We're suppose to talk tonight and she's suppose to tell me everything, but we'll see. I feel a bit indifferent about the situation at the moment. I still love and care about her, but she really hurt me this time.

I'm glad she's done blaming me for everything and admitting that the constant let downs in her life are not my fault. She also said she's going to seek counseling maybe that will be the deciding factor.

[Callmemark]

cancel, go to work, get the flu, take up crochet, rearrange your drawer, play video games, anything but meeting her.  You know... you absolutely know that she's lying about the other guy. You knew better in middle school when some girl told you the same. The other guy probably saw the crazy and took off. Or she realized he wasn't the type that would go along.

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[redfeather]

"The other guy saw the crazy and took off" I couldnt have said it better myself. I am going to hold onto this thought tonite at work. Mine told me once the "nice" ones or the ones she valued always left her and she sat wondering how that could be? I told her at first not having recognized yet she was pwBPD maybe she hadnt found right one yet! Nope that  wasnt it at ALL...The healthy women saw her for what she was IMMEDIATELY and dropped her on her head. I count myself among those! Stay strong sir hero its a game to get her needs met.
Ask youself this: If your pwBPD is so crazy in love like mine said she was with me WHY do they need ALL these so called "friends" hovering around them giving us the hairy eyeball? Huh? Why...my two cents these are our replacements and our replacements replacements.  Hi!