goodbye dear friends

[Think About It...]

greetings to all!

will be taking a leave of absence from the board.  doesn't seem that i have much to offer in the way of advice, experience, or guidance since my replys are rarely acknowledged.

perhaps i am too old school.

i wish all of you the best and will continue to offer up prayers for you all.

 

lbjnltx

[lbjnltx]

greetings to all!

will be taking a leave of absence from the board.  doesn't seem that i have much to offer in the way of advice, experience, or guidance since my replys are rarely acknowledged.

perhaps i am too old school.

i wish all of you the best and will continue to offer up prayers for you all.

 

lbjnltx

[DreamGirl]

lbjnltx.  

I think sometimes we grow in different directions.  I think you are a person of great value and possess such a beautiful heart. I also understand the need to take a break, or even to move on. I've certainly been moving in that same direction - of not posting much anymore - with having found a peaceful place in my life, especially when it comes to the Borderline soul who I have grown to love and accept as part of my family.

I'm honored to know you and to have traveled with you on your journey ~ with that signature line that always gave us all hope. x

With much love to you and yours,

DreamGirl

[mom4jenna]

lbjnitx, I certainly understand if you feel the need to move on. I did value your input on the boards since I came aboard about 6 weeks ago. Please continue to pray for us newbies who are just learning and need support to navigate this baffling disease.
Good luck...

Mom4Jenna

[Vivgood]

In a similar case lbjnltx

You and your DD are often in my thoughts, and I wish you both a smooth trajectory on your way out of the BPD diversion.


vivgood

[peaceplease]

lbjnltx,

You will be missed.  You offered so much to this board.  Your journal of your dd's stay at rtc has offered so much  hope to others.  You were so generous with contributing to this board. 

I hope things move forward with you and family.  You have provided such a gift too your dd.

You have given such a gift to this board, too.  Your responses were so helpful.  I will miss you.  You will remain in my thoughts and prayers, too.

 
peaceplease

[Reality]

Dear lbjnitx,
Oh dear!  Our loss.  You were always the voice of calm reason here.  I admire your exceptional tenacity and determination to find the answers for your daughter and for others here.  Your profound understanding of the necessity to find the appropriate treatment for our dear souls with BPD inspired my own growing conviction that there are solutions to this maelstrom.
I always appreciated the way you worded your posts, so thoughtful, kind and always helpful.  Know that I will always be grateful to you for your contributions.  They changed my mindset from despair to hope. 
With my deepest affection for you, lbjnitx,
Reality
May your daughter continue on her path of goodness and sunshine-filled life.

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[griz]

Dear lbjnitx:  I am sorry to see you go.  I have not been on the board much as I am new but I certainly found your posts to be helpful and kind.  You always seem to have a way to take fear and frustration and put it into a context where one knows they can go on. 

I wish you the best and hope that someday you will come back. I will continue to keep you and yours in my prayers.

Griz

[j's friend]

I am sorry to see you go lbjnltx 

I remember when I first found this site. You always took the time to reply to my frantic posts which were many at the time.Your replys were always very reassuring, calming and knowledgable, and I thank you for them lbjnitx. I wish you and your family well and hope that your d will continue to do well!

[Thursday]

lbjnltx,

I have learned so much from you and have nothing but respect for how proactive you have been for your daughter. She is a very lucky girl to have you.

Sometimes, I think even when posts aren't acknowleged, there are people reading and learning. Something strikes a chord, even if you don't know about it.

Wishing you the best.

thursday

[whiletheseasonspass]

lbj,
You have been a very good friend and a compassionate poster here...I  rarely post here any more but interestingly if get the whim to look back at threads I've started to view my own history/ journey over the past 2-3 years - sometimes threads I started that received few replies if any...I see that they even though there were few replies - the threads were read many times over so the topic was of interest to others so look back at your threads some day and see how much of a difference you have made by how often they were read- you'll be surprised even if you go back to when you first joined.

That said- sometimes we need to move on..because we just do.

I wish you and your dd all the best...    
Your friend
 
wtsp

[seeking balance]

lbjnltx,

I have to say, you will be missed.  Your logic transcended all boards and although this board is not my normal playground, I would read if I saw your posts to gleam words of wisdom offered.

Best of luck with your daughter and with life.  I do hope you will drop in from time to time.

Peace,
SB

[peaceplease]

lbj,

You really were great with replies.  Your responses were always so wise and kind.  I will miss reading your posts. 

I just wanted to thank you again, for being such a great support to all of us. 

I truly admire you. I can see that many of us feel the same way.   

 
peaceplease

[swampped]

I always read your posts---both those you initiated during your long journey with your dd's residential treatment, and your very wise replies to others here over the past year.  You have touched many more people than you will ever know---even those of us who have not replied.  Take care on your journey with your dd, and know that I am among your strongest admirers.  Thank you so much!   Swampped 

[wornoutsupermum52]

Dear Lbj,

I too will be sorry to see you go, as I always made a point of reading and re-reading your posts as our dd's are the same age. If we could throw you a party, I would be there!

My hope and wish for you is that you have good personal support set up for your future, so that you can continue to care for and nurture your dd.

With my best wishes,

Wornout,

[seekinglight]

There seems to be an ebb and flow with this board, perhaps a bit of time will pass and you will feel a draw back.

I know you will continue to do what is needed for your daughter and yourself, so I wish you the best on this journey to health

[kellygirl601]

I am sorry you are leaving.  You are one of the names I recognize, which means you were here for me.  I dont use this board a lot, but I am very sorry to see you go.

Kelly

[Goldenthreads]

Wow, I'm so sorry you are leaving...I'm new here and you were one of the first to respond to me with really helpful/supportive advice.  My best wishes to you on your journey.

[heronbird]

Well, I dont understand that, because I know you have given good advice, and hey you know what I dont always give good advice and I go on and on and on about boring detail, but it helps me 

I hope you will still have a browse from time to time at least but look at your responses you got, loads, I think it proves you will be missed, I know I have liked your posts, sorry if you feel ignored, I hate that feeling, I feel like that on fb, lost of people never reply to me on that and its a horrible feeling isnt it.

[qcarolr]

I too feel this way sometimes - when things are good seems I answer my own questions and get few replies to my threads. Yet I do feel others here me sometimes when I give replies. You cannot know how much you have saved me with my situation. I always look for you when I am here, though not everyday anymore.

You will be missed - you added so very much. Maybe you can check in once in a while if you need a boost ever. YOu have kept me focused on finding my 'Wise Mind' so many times.

Wish I could know you as a true friend beyond this board. Want you to know that I will cry, and am grateful for your helping find my FAITH again. And am working to get energized with it. So lost for about 12 years feeling abandoned by God. He is here, I just deny Him along with all the other things I try to avoid.

You will always be in my 

qcr    

[eeyore]

I agree I'll miss you.  Your posts were always thought provoking and warm.

[peppie]

Dear Ibjnitx, It is not goodbye it is see you later. It is difficult for everyone as we are all so consumed by this terrible illness we only can see ourselves in the moment. As we all know we live moment to moment. So my dear friend just breath. You are not alone. We all care, maybe not answering but caring. For me it is difficult as I now feel as I don't really fit on the board since my Tegan took her life. But I still just read sometimes. Not respond, just read and it helps me soooo much. I know Ibjnitx you struggle and we can all relate. Your a great Mum and a real valuable resource. Just remember everyone reads. I have had time out from the board at times. You may just need time out. So just say see you later, not Goodbye Hi! . Sometimes I wrote how I was feeling or even just a quote and no one answered. It was good for me just to write it down. So have some time away and then when you feel up to it come back. We are all still here, some of us just watching and some participating. I pray your life is calming down and you are looking after yourself. That is so important. I know at times when I cried out and people responded it really helped, so I hope this is just a cry out. Breath, take a bath, watch a really nice movie, ring a long lost friend etc... Something that will lift  your cloud. Believe me I know how hard it is when your feeling so down (I too have been there). It is hard to lift ourselves up when we are so worn out from trying to lift our dear children up. Remember you belong here. This is a safe house for us. It saved me  . Take care. Hope to here from you in the near future  . God bless peppie xoxxo

[cleanandsober]

Dear Ibjnitx, I think this support group is about "give and take".  Sometimes I just read posts and do not respond because I can't think of the "right" words to say.  Sometimes just reading everyone's posts is enough for me.  I don't always expect a response to my posts either.  Maybe that's because we are all at different places in our recovery.  Best wishes and good luck to you!

[lbjnltx]

thank you all for your kind words.

during this break i hope to find a way to be more helpful in the future and still get my needs met as a mom to a child who sometimes still struggles in areas of her life.  

more than anything i desired to share hope and what has worked for us.  the paradox of putting the information out there and getting no feedback and letting go of what i cannot control is the driving force behind my decision.

be mindful of validating each other and carrying those who struggle just to stand up!  be mindful that when we are not working on self we are not able to offer genuine help to others...we cannot give what we do not have.  remember that we can only change self and that is where healing begins.  take to heart the kindness of others, spend your valuable time and energy in ways that will yield positive results for yourselves and your precious children.  

do not ignore the spiritual aspects of your journey.  this is and was the key component to my dd15's miraculous progress as well as my own.

love to you all

lbjnltx

[DreamGirl]

Dear Ibjnitx, It is not goodbye it is see you later.

Love this.

lbjnltx... I will see you later.     

[griz]

lbjnitx:

"more than anything i desired to share hope and what has worked for us.  the paradox of putting the information out there and getting no feedback and letting go of what i cannot control is the driving force behind my decision."


I just wanted to say again thank you for sharing your hope and your knowledge.  I also wanted to say that sometimes I know that I didn't reply to you because you seem to have it so together and I felt like I had nothing to contribute.  I guess I should have just said that.

I will miss you

Griz

[Reality]

lbjnitx
I felt the same way griz did.  Because your posts were so well-worded, wise and inspirational, I never thought to respond.  You are our shining star, lbjnitx.
Reality

[united for now]

lbjnltx

Thanks for all that you've given over the years.
We will always be here for you 

[Being Mindful]

And I too feel the same way as Griz and Reality. You always were on the mark and seemed to have a knowledge and concept of everything well beyond any of us. I learned a lot from you, but never felt I had anything to offer you. I'm sorry I never thought to validate you.

[Am I crazy?]

Sorry to see you go.  I hope that your life gets so much better that you do not need the support here.  I have to admit that I rarely come here anymore, as I too felt that I was not getting help as much as I was getting caught up in the drama of the "stuff" that everyone else is going through.   I just do not need that drama in my life.    I will occassionally poke my nose in here, hoping that there has been a "cure" found. 

Many wonderful thoughts to you and your family.   Don't take this the wrong way, but I hope that you do not HAVE to come back here.  I think that is all of our goals!

Hugs to you!

[mikmik]

There is always so much to digest in our daily lives.  I look forward to reading the board, to your posts and all our BPD friends.  and in this electronic age, I myself, am not fully aware of the common courtesies that apply.  Being newer to the board, I try to monitor my typing so it does not appear that I am just blabbing on and on.  I read posts and replies, and take them in for consideration.  Sometimes I feel like I live in a BPD fallout haze and I may get "reply lazy"  Thank you for bringing this issue to light. I wish you and your dd all the best on your continuing journey.

mikmik 

[C12P21]

I will miss your voice of reason and remember your posts in the earlier years of my despair, your words were a shining light in a long tunnel of darkness.
Take care and thank  you for your time,
C

[Violet719]

lbjnltx,

I tend to come and go from this board as time allows and depending on how things are going with my DD.  Lately I've been super busy and things are calm, so I've not been here much in the last few weeks. As a result I'm not sure what posts or replies you're referring to. But I remember you as a "veteran" on this board; I joined over a year ago, and you seemed to have been a well established member even then. I remember your posts helping me a lot. There are many different circumstances and problems represented here.  Some I can relate to; some I can't.  I don't usually respond to topics that I know nothing about. Some of them are just not areas where I feel qualified or comfortable giving advice.  And I would guess most of us here pick and choose the posts that resonate with us.  Some of yours certainly resonated with me, especially last summer.  So did your attitude and philosphy. I think anyone who takes the time to come on here and offer support deserves more than acknowledgement - you deserve thanks and appreciation.  You have mine.  Good luck, and hope to see you back here sometime - hopefully with good news and updates about your DD.

Violet

[runningonempty]

I have not posted alot these past three years, but I want you to know that you were a God send to me many a nights during my daughters hospitalizations.  You have given me so much helpful information on residential treatment and the IEP for my daughter.  Your journey with your daughter has given me hope and inspiration to keep trying to get placement for my daughter. Thank you for all your support.

[an0ught]

Dear lbjnltx,

the best posts are rarely acknowledged. Not for reason of disrespect but more by having too much respect. They are works of art that inspire awe and leave us speechless like I often felt this when reading your posts.

Hope to hear your voice some time again