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« on: April 09, 2012, 11:31:05 AM »

greetings to all!

will be taking a leave of absence from the board.  doesn't seem that i have much to offer in the way of advice, experience, or guidance since my replys are rarely acknowledged.

perhaps i am too old school.

i wish all of you the best and will continue to offer up prayers for you all.

 

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« Reply #1 on: April 09, 2012, 11:37:14 AM »

lbjnltx.  

I think sometimes we grow in different directions.  I think you are a person of great value and possess such a beautiful heart. I also understand the need to take a break, or even to move on. I've certainly been moving in that same direction - of not posting much anymore - with having found a peaceful place in my life, especially when it comes to the Borderline soul who I have grown to love and accept as part of my family.

I'm honored to know you and to have traveled with you on your journey ~ with that signature line that always gave us all hope. x

With much love to you and yours,

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« Reply #2 on: April 09, 2012, 11:42:30 AM »

lbjnitx, I certainly understand if you feel the need to move on. I did value your input on the boards since I came aboard about 6 weeks ago. Please continue to pray for us newbies who are just learning and need support to navigate this baffling disease.
Good luck...

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« Reply #3 on: April 09, 2012, 12:04:27 PM »

In a similar case lbjnltx Empathy

You and your DD are often in my thoughts, and I wish you both a smooth trajectory on your way out of the BPD diversion.


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« Reply #4 on: April 09, 2012, 01:14:03 PM »

lbjnltx,

You will be missed.  You offered so much to this board.  Your journal of your dd's stay at rtc has offered so much  hope to others.  You were so generous with contributing to this board. 

I hope things move forward with you and family.  You have provided such a gift too your dd.

You have given such a gift to this board, too.  Your responses were so helpful.  I will miss you.  You will remain in my thoughts and prayers, too. Empathy

 
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« Reply #5 on: April 09, 2012, 01:29:13 PM »

Dear lbjnitx,
Oh dear!  Our loss.  You were always the voice of calm reason here.  I admire your exceptional tenacity and determination to find the answers for your daughter and for others here.  Your profound understanding of the necessity to find the appropriate treatment for our dear souls with BPD inspired my own growing conviction that there are solutions to this maelstrom.
I always appreciated the way you worded your posts, so thoughtful, kind and always helpful.  Know that I will always be grateful to you for your contributions.  They changed my mindset from despair to hope. 
With my deepest affection for you, lbjnitx,
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« Reply #6 on: April 09, 2012, 01:40:11 PM »

Dear lbjnitx:  I am sorry to see you go.  I have not been on the board much as I am new but I certainly found your posts to be helpful and kind.  You always seem to have a way to take fear and frustration and put it into a context where one knows they can go on. 

I wish you the best and hope that someday you will come back. I will continue to keep you and yours in my prayers.

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« Reply #7 on: April 09, 2012, 02:21:56 PM »

I am sorry to see you go lbjnltx  Empathy

I remember when I first found this site. You always took the time to reply to my frantic posts which were many at the time.Your replys were always very reassuring, calming and knowledgable, and I thank you for them lbjnitx. I wish you and your family well and hope that your d will continue to do well! smiley
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« Reply #8 on: April 09, 2012, 03:54:43 PM »

lbjnltx,

I have learned so much from you and have nothing but respect for how proactive you have been for your daughter. She is a very lucky girl to have you.

Sometimes, I think even when posts aren't acknowleged, there are people reading and learning. Something strikes a chord, even if you don't know about it.

Wishing you the best.

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« Reply #9 on: April 09, 2012, 05:08:36 PM »

lbj,
You have been a very good friend and a compassionate poster here...I  rarely post here any more but interestingly if get the whim to look back at threads I've started to view my own history/ journey over the past 2-3 years - sometimes threads I started that received few replies if any...I see that they even though there were few replies - the threads were read many times over so the topic was of interest to others so look back at your threads some day and see how much of a difference you have made by how often they were read- you'll be surprised even if you go back to when you first joined.

That said- sometimes we need to move on..because we just do.

I wish you and your dd all the best... Empathy  Empathy  Empathy
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« Reply #10 on: April 09, 2012, 05:16:28 PM »

lbjnltx,

I have to say, you will be missed.  Your logic transcended all boards and although this board is not my normal playground, I would read if I saw your posts to gleam words of wisdom offered.

Best of luck with your daughter and with life.  I do hope you will drop in from time to time.

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« Reply #11 on: April 09, 2012, 07:23:25 PM »

lbj,

You really were great with replies.  Your responses were always so wise and kind.  I will miss reading your posts. 

I just wanted to thank you again, for being such a great support to all of us. 

I truly admire you. I can see that many of us feel the same way.   Empathy

 
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« Reply #12 on: April 09, 2012, 09:41:23 PM »

I always read your posts---both those you initiated during your long journey with your dd's residential treatment, and your very wise replies to others here over the past year.  You have touched many more people than you will ever know---even those of us who have not replied.  Take care on your journey with your dd, and know that I am among your strongest admirers.  Thank you so much!   Swampped 
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« Reply #13 on: April 10, 2012, 03:25:32 AM »

Dear Lbj,

I too will be sorry to see you go, as I always made a point of reading and re-reading your posts as our dd's are the same age. If we could throw you a party, I would be there!

My hope and wish for you is that you have good personal support set up for your future, so that you can continue to care for and nurture your dd.

With my best wishes,

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« Reply #14 on: April 10, 2012, 05:06:06 AM »

There seems to be an ebb and flow with this board, perhaps a bit of time will pass and you will feel a draw back.

I know you will continue to do what is needed for your daughter and yourself, so I wish you the best on this journey to health
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« Reply #15 on: April 10, 2012, 05:46:28 AM »

I am sorry you are leaving.  You are one of the names I recognize, which means you were here for me.  I dont use this board a lot, but I am very sorry to see you go.

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« Reply #16 on: April 10, 2012, 12:13:51 PM »

Wow, I'm so sorry you are leaving...I'm new here and you were one of the first to respond to me with really helpful/supportive advice.  My best wishes to you on your journey.
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« Reply #17 on: April 10, 2012, 02:08:18 PM »

Well, I dont understand that, because I know you have given good advice, and hey you know what I dont always give good advice and I go on and on and on about boring detail, but it helps me  grin lol grin

I hope you will still have a browse from time to time at least but look at your responses you got, loads, I think it proves you will be missed, I know I have liked your posts, sorry if you feel ignored, I hate that feeling, I feel like that on fb, lost of people never reply to me on that and its a horrible feeling isnt it.
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« Reply #18 on: April 10, 2012, 09:24:35 PM »

I too feel this way sometimes - when things are good seems I answer my own questions and get few replies to my threads. Yet I do feel others here me sometimes when I give replies. You cannot know how much you have saved me with my situation. I always look for you when I am here, though not everyday anymore.

You will be missed - you added so very much. Maybe you can check in once in a while if you need a boost ever. YOu have kept me focused on finding my 'Wise Mind' so many times.

Wish I could know you as a true friend beyond this board. Want you to know that I will cry, and am grateful for your helping find my FAITH again. And am working to get energized with it. So lost for about 12 years feeling abandoned by God. He is here, I just deny Him along with all the other things I try to avoid.

You will always be in my 

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« Reply #19 on: April 10, 2012, 09:49:21 PM »

I agree I'll miss you.  Your posts were always thought provoking and warm.
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