Just courious

[Think About It...]

With all the meds and BPD, is their any chance my wife will want to be intimate with me agian?

[phillbattle]

With all the meds and BPD, is their any chance my wife will want to be intimate with me agian?

[artman.1]

uphillbattle,
     If she is anything like my UBPDW, NO!  I have been married to my UBPDW for 43.8 years, and she has denied all Intimacy for the last 36 years.  This Mental Illness sucks.  They can go out and have affairs all over the place, and refuse their Partner without even considering how this might make the partner feel.  Mine painted me black about 41 years ago, and stopped her initiating Intimacy, and then went into full refusal of any sort of intimact, even holding hands about 4 years later.

Art

[momtario]

I'm not sure how well the meds will work for her, uphillbattle, but there are treatments (namely dialectical behavioural therapy) that would help. If she is on meds, does she have a diagnosis, or is she awaiting one?

DBT is considered the gold standard for BPD treatments and almost always makes a huge difference, but the treatment has to be something your wife chooses for herself, or like with anything, it won't work,

[phillbattle]

I'm not sure how well the meds will work for her, uphillbattle, but there are treatments (namely dialectical behavioural therapy) that would help. If she is on meds, does she have a diagnosis, or is she awaiting one?

DBT is considered the gold standard for BPD treatments and almost always makes a huge difference, but the treatment has to be something your wife chooses for herself, or like with anything, it won't work,

The meds have made a noticable differnce, the therapy is also making a differnce. I know this because when she neglected to take her meds for 3 straight days you could tell she hadn't taken them but it was still much better than before.

She does not have a diagnosis yet, her doctor is still not sure yet. By what he perscribes it seems as if he has a suspition at the verry least.

Her theripst is doing CBT at the moment though.
My wife at this point is noticing the differnce, she is loving the fact that she is feeling better. She is having no problems going in the direction of the doctor and the theripst at the moment which is way better than I expected.

[beyondbelief]

Every person and situation is different so you can't make blanket statements.  It is a great sign that she is actively participating in treatment and is making progress.

[phillbattle]

  oddest thing just happened. I went home for lunch because I only live 2 min away. On my way out the door she gave me the most passionate kiss that she has given in atleast 5 years. I feel really good right now. Find it really odd that I would ask this today and that would happen.