goodbye dear friends

[Think About It....]

Dear Ibjnitx, It is not goodbye it is see you later. It is difficult for everyone as we are all so consumed by this terrible illness we only can see ourselves in the moment. As we all know we live moment to moment. So my dear friend just breath. You are not alone. We all care, maybe not answering but caring. For me it is difficult as I now feel as I don't really fit on the board since my Tegan took her life. But I still just read sometimes. Not respond, just read and it helps me soooo much. I know Ibjnitx you struggle and we can all relate. Your a great Mum and a real valuable resource. Just remember everyone reads. I have had time out from the board at times. You may just need time out. So just say see you later, not Goodbye Hi! . Sometimes I wrote how I was feeling or even just a quote and no one answered. It was good for me just to write it down. So have some time away and then when you feel up to it come back. We are all still here, some of us just watching and some participating. I pray your life is calming down and you are looking after yourself. That is so important. I know at times when I cried out and people responded it really helped, so I hope this is just a cry out. Breath, take a bath, watch a really nice movie, ring a long lost friend etc... Something that will lift  your cloud. Believe me I know how hard it is when your feeling so down (I too have been there). It is hard to lift ourselves up when we are so worn out from trying to lift our dear children up. Remember you belong here. This is a safe house for us. It saved me  . Take care. Hope to here from you in the near future  . God bless peppie xoxxo

[peppie]

Dear Ibjnitx, It is not goodbye it is see you later. It is difficult for everyone as we are all so consumed by this terrible illness we only can see ourselves in the moment. As we all know we live moment to moment. So my dear friend just breath. You are not alone. We all care, maybe not answering but caring. For me it is difficult as I now feel as I don't really fit on the board since my Tegan took her life. But I still just read sometimes. Not respond, just read and it helps me soooo much. I know Ibjnitx you struggle and we can all relate. Your a great Mum and a real valuable resource. Just remember everyone reads. I have had time out from the board at times. You may just need time out. So just say see you later, not Goodbye Hi! . Sometimes I wrote how I was feeling or even just a quote and no one answered. It was good for me just to write it down. So have some time away and then when you feel up to it come back. We are all still here, some of us just watching and some participating. I pray your life is calming down and you are looking after yourself. That is so important. I know at times when I cried out and people responded it really helped, so I hope this is just a cry out. Breath, take a bath, watch a really nice movie, ring a long lost friend etc... Something that will lift  your cloud. Believe me I know how hard it is when your feeling so down (I too have been there). It is hard to lift ourselves up when we are so worn out from trying to lift our dear children up. Remember you belong here. This is a safe house for us. It saved me  . Take care. Hope to here from you in the near future  . God bless peppie xoxxo

[cleanandsober]

Dear Ibjnitx, I think this support group is about "give and take".  Sometimes I just read posts and do not respond because I can't think of the "right" words to say.  Sometimes just reading everyone's posts is enough for me.  I don't always expect a response to my posts either.  Maybe that's because we are all at different places in our recovery.  Best wishes and good luck to you!

[lbjnltx]

thank you all for your kind words.

during this break i hope to find a way to be more helpful in the future and still get my needs met as a mom to a child who sometimes still struggles in areas of her life.  

more than anything i desired to share hope and what has worked for us.  the paradox of putting the information out there and getting no feedback and letting go of what i cannot control is the driving force behind my decision.

be mindful of validating each other and carrying those who struggle just to stand up!  be mindful that when we are not working on self we are not able to offer genuine help to others...we cannot give what we do not have.  remember that we can only change self and that is where healing begins.  take to heart the kindness of others, spend your valuable time and energy in ways that will yield positive results for yourselves and your precious children.  

do not ignore the spiritual aspects of your journey.  this is and was the key component to my dd15's miraculous progress as well as my own.

love to you all

lbjnltx

[DreamGirl]

Dear Ibjnitx, It is not goodbye it is see you later.

Love this.

lbjnltx... I will see you later.     

[griz]

lbjnitx:

"more than anything i desired to share hope and what has worked for us.  the paradox of putting the information out there and getting no feedback and letting go of what i cannot control is the driving force behind my decision."


I just wanted to say again thank you for sharing your hope and your knowledge.  I also wanted to say that sometimes I know that I didn't reply to you because you seem to have it so together and I felt like I had nothing to contribute.  I guess I should have just said that.

I will miss you

Griz

[Reality]

lbjnitx
I felt the same way griz did.  Because your posts were so well-worded, wise and inspirational, I never thought to respond.  You are our shining star, lbjnitx.
Reality

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[united for now]

lbjnltx

Thanks for all that you've given over the years.
We will always be here for you 

[Being Mindful]

And I too feel the same way as Griz and Reality. You always were on the mark and seemed to have a knowledge and concept of everything well beyond any of us. I learned a lot from you, but never felt I had anything to offer you. I'm sorry I never thought to validate you.

[Am I crazy?]

Sorry to see you go.  I hope that your life gets so much better that you do not need the support here.  I have to admit that I rarely come here anymore, as I too felt that I was not getting help as much as I was getting caught up in the drama of the "stuff" that everyone else is going through.   I just do not need that drama in my life.    I will occassionally poke my nose in here, hoping that there has been a "cure" found. 

Many wonderful thoughts to you and your family.   Don't take this the wrong way, but I hope that you do not HAVE to come back here.  I think that is all of our goals!

Hugs to you!

[mikmik]

There is always so much to digest in our daily lives.  I look forward to reading the board, to your posts and all our BPD friends.  and in this electronic age, I myself, am not fully aware of the common courtesies that apply.  Being newer to the board, I try to monitor my typing so it does not appear that I am just blabbing on and on.  I read posts and replies, and take them in for consideration.  Sometimes I feel like I live in a BPD fallout haze and I may get "reply lazy"  Thank you for bringing this issue to light. I wish you and your dd all the best on your continuing journey.

mikmik 

[C12P21]

I will miss your voice of reason and remember your posts in the earlier years of my despair, your words were a shining light in a long tunnel of darkness.
Take care and thank  you for your time,
C

[Violet719]

lbjnltx,

I tend to come and go from this board as time allows and depending on how things are going with my DD.  Lately I've been super busy and things are calm, so I've not been here much in the last few weeks. As a result I'm not sure what posts or replies you're referring to. But I remember you as a "veteran" on this board; I joined over a year ago, and you seemed to have been a well established member even then. I remember your posts helping me a lot. There are many different circumstances and problems represented here.  Some I can relate to; some I can't.  I don't usually respond to topics that I know nothing about. Some of them are just not areas where I feel qualified or comfortable giving advice.  And I would guess most of us here pick and choose the posts that resonate with us.  Some of yours certainly resonated with me, especially last summer.  So did your attitude and philosphy. I think anyone who takes the time to come on here and offer support deserves more than acknowledgement - you deserve thanks and appreciation.  You have mine.  Good luck, and hope to see you back here sometime - hopefully with good news and updates about your DD.

Violet

[runningonempty]

I have not posted alot these past three years, but I want you to know that you were a God send to me many a nights during my daughters hospitalizations.  You have given me so much helpful information on residential treatment and the IEP for my daughter.  Your journey with your daughter has given me hope and inspiration to keep trying to get placement for my daughter. Thank you for all your support.

[an0ught]

Dear lbjnltx,

the best posts are rarely acknowledged. Not for reason of disrespect but more by having too much respect. They are works of art that inspire awe and leave us speechless like I often felt this when reading your posts.

Hope to hear your voice some time again