He not only walked away from me, but from some financial obligations

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He ended our relationship just three weeks before we were to move in together (a very nice place that I could not afford on my own), and less than a month after purchasing (on credit) some new furniture for the apartment.  HE JUST WALKED AWAY!

No care or concern for me, or his financial obligations.  It took three years, but I did get it paid off (and obviously kept the furniture).  But I did lose two months' worth of rent (I had to pay rent until they could find another tenant). 

How many of you had the experience of them shrugging off financial obligations?

[1989]

He ended our relationship just three weeks before we were to move in together (a very nice place that I could not afford on my own), and less than a month after purchasing (on credit) some new furniture for the apartment.  HE JUST WALKED AWAY!

No care or concern for me, or his financial obligations.  It took three years, but I did get it paid off (and obviously kept the furniture).  But I did lose two months' worth of rent (I had to pay rent until they could find another tenant). 

How many of you had the experience of them shrugging off financial obligations?

[1989]

Expounding on this:  Had we not had a romantic relationship, but perhaps a partnership, and my partner had walked away leaving me holding the bag, I would never have gone back into a partnership with him.   

[redberry]

I'm sorry that happened to you.  Luckily I was replaced before we really made any big financial commitments together--which mean commitments I would have made in my name because he has bad credit (and no money)...  But he definitely cost me some money.  It was a lot of small things.  He was at my place a lot, of course not paying rent, not paying utilities...  We would cook with food that I bought, snacks he ate were my snacks, my drinks, etc. when we went somewhere it was in my car because he couldn't afford gas.  He would be broke and ask me to pay his way to the movies or something like that and he promised to "pay me back." These types of events happened often and of course I never was paid back.  If you add all of it up, I'm sure I spent well over two thousand dollars on him by the time he walked away.

[FriedaB]

Mine  owes  me  $7,000.  It  sucks,  there  is  no  other  way  to  put  it;  the  sense  of  entitlement  these  people  have  is  ridiculous!  I  am  so  sorry  this  happened  to  you!  *hugs*

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