Lots of news this week

[Think About It...]

Where to begin,

Monday was very enlightening.  We had MC monday night, and lots came out.  lots was said, and lots of progress was made.  This week has been relatively good as a result.  First a few changes to my status my wife admitted in MC that she has had a formal diagnosis of BPD.  She also confirmed my fears that, it is the reason she has abandoned therapy so many times in the past. 

Our T handled the situation very well.  my wife had a breakdown in MC and it was after this, that she asked if any therapist had ever mentioned Borderline, and then if she had a formal diagnosis.  both of which were "yes" answers from my wife. 

As a result of this, our T suggested I look into BPD and do some reading on my own, (that's my homework for the next two weeks)  My dBPDw (feels weird to type that still)  has also started looking into it.  And has read off a few passages that I recognized from my time already looking into it, and actually had a minor epiphany that that does sound exactly like her.  She of course mentioned the parts that don't fit, and asked "I don't do that do I?"  But thankfully understood where it was coming from.

Our T focused on the abandonment issues, and the attachment issues my dBPDw has.  And that the reason she has been talking bad about me is because everyone else has left her in her life, that she's trying to push me away so that she doesn't get hurt.

Relieving to know that I'm not way off base, and that it's probably a good thing that I read up on this beforehand.

I'm remaining hopeful that progress can continue to be made.  especially since this is the point in therapy where she usually runs. 

[FullMetal]

Where to begin,

Monday was very enlightening.  We had MC monday night, and lots came out.  lots was said, and lots of progress was made.  This week has been relatively good as a result.  First a few changes to my status my wife admitted in MC that she has had a formal diagnosis of BPD.  She also confirmed my fears that, it is the reason she has abandoned therapy so many times in the past. 

Our T handled the situation very well.  my wife had a breakdown in MC and it was after this, that she asked if any therapist had ever mentioned Borderline, and then if she had a formal diagnosis.  both of which were "yes" answers from my wife. 

As a result of this, our T suggested I look into BPD and do some reading on my own, (that's my homework for the next two weeks)  My dBPDw (feels weird to type that still)  has also started looking into it.  And has read off a few passages that I recognized from my time already looking into it, and actually had a minor epiphany that that does sound exactly like her.  She of course mentioned the parts that don't fit, and asked "I don't do that do I?"  But thankfully understood where it was coming from.

Our T focused on the abandonment issues, and the attachment issues my dBPDw has.  And that the reason she has been talking bad about me is because everyone else has left her in her life, that she's trying to push me away so that she doesn't get hurt.

Relieving to know that I'm not way off base, and that it's probably a good thing that I read up on this beforehand.

I'm remaining hopeful that progress can continue to be made.  especially since this is the point in therapy where she usually runs. 

[an0ught]

Great to hear FullMetal,

it is a big step to admit you have issues in front of others. Does your MC have any experience in handling pwBPD?

[CodependentHusband]

FullMetal,
     That sounds awesome! Awareness is a HUGE step in itself, but the fact that she is actually discussing this with you and a MC is even more incredible. You may already know this, but expect some setbacks as a normal part of your wife's journey. She is showing some real bravery! Keep the hope and keep working the tools.

[eeyore]

I hope this is a event that will change things for the better. 

[united for now]

Sounds like a productive session.

How are things going now?