About denial vs neurotic pathology

[Think About It...]

So my exuBPDgf was crazy jealous. But for all the wrong reasons! She was jealous of things that 'felt' threatening to her in her own mind but not of the things in front of her eyes. It's like the way she perceives the world is so twisted.

For example, I remember back in our r/s when I would catch myself talking to a pretty girl at a shoe store then had an eye out for my exgf to see if she'd be jealous. To my surprise she wasn't. I even started jotting down info on paper (about shoes) and she didn't look like she was even curious. Another time, after our r/s, she caught me on a date and I was having a good time. She told me later that it looked like she's just a friend or that I was on an awful date. What gave her that idea? Denial. I was always surprised how I was in the clear of things I thought she'd be jealous of.

By contrast, all her jealousy was completely unfounded. Pathological. She was jealous of drawings I made of fictional girls and r/s I had from the past. She was once jealous of the fact that I would be directing someone else WHILE I was directing her. She'll make up stories in her head and be jealous, but she wasn't jealous of anything real. Only made up stuff.

Is this everyone else's experience with BPD jealousy?

[nylonsquid]

So my exuBPDgf was crazy jealous. But for all the wrong reasons! She was jealous of things that 'felt' threatening to her in her own mind but not of the things in front of her eyes. It's like the way she perceives the world is so twisted.

For example, I remember back in our r/s when I would catch myself talking to a pretty girl at a shoe store then had an eye out for my exgf to see if she'd be jealous. To my surprise she wasn't. I even started jotting down info on paper (about shoes) and she didn't look like she was even curious. Another time, after our r/s, she caught me on a date and I was having a good time. She told me later that it looked like she's just a friend or that I was on an awful date. What gave her that idea? Denial. I was always surprised how I was in the clear of things I thought she'd be jealous of.

By contrast, all her jealousy was completely unfounded. Pathological. She was jealous of drawings I made of fictional girls and r/s I had from the past. She was once jealous of the fact that I would be directing someone else WHILE I was directing her. She'll make up stories in her head and be jealous, but she wasn't jealous of anything real. Only made up stuff.

Is this everyone else's experience with BPD jealousy?