There are lots of normal men out there. Sadly there are lots of jerks and waste of time people and of course those with a PD.
I am a male. Having had a BPD RS and moved on, I had every boundariey I could think of up. Every red flag alert in place , every bomb sniffer out. All good.
We let ourselves sadly be taken to places by not being alert last time and posssibly more than once in the past.
This said, if the relationship develops into a push pull thing, or they stop calling ... there usually is a reason and its not good enough when you have been seeing each other for months then for them to stop for a week or a few days.
Normal people dont call 5 times a day ... then again if its the right one you may spend hours on the phone each day.
Dont read too much into anything.
personally found something beautiful and out of the blue ... and its been a little over 12 months now all good.
Used something as a roadmap to ground me after so many unhealthy relationships in the past, only one BPD partner but some friends I suspect with PD's and a Mother with BPD.
Characteristics of Healthy Relationshipshttp://www.BPDfamily.com/bpdresources/nk_a115.htm
When building a house if the foundations are rubbish it will fall down possibly straight away. I checked besides the physical attraction, interests ... and all the great things ... I got ticks in all of these before too long. Also goes without saying lots of rules I now have for myself and what will not be tolerated, abuse, violence ect ect.
All of it good,
If someone is into you and respects you and wants a future with you they will treat you accordingly. We all have the right to be treated with love patience kindness passion and also to expect our partners to receive the same back.
Maybe this helps ? Maybe not. but the questions when i asked them of my BPD RS the score on my ex's part was not good but still i endured.