Yes. The reasons at the end, when she was leaving, were all projections, so obviously what she'd been doing herself. Everything there was to dump, she dumped. The 'reasons' didn't come from out of nowhere, though, they'd popped up in rages and 'truth-slams' she'd aim at me in the past. Hurtful, yes, but not new or unexpected.
When the final breakup happened, it actually seemed we were about the closest we had ever been. That things could work. Funny, huh? Anybody see a pattern here? Hi!
Talking about pets: She told me more than once, "Why don't you just Marry that cat?", seeing how well we got along. The cat's still here! We're still on the best of terms!
All I know is I was pretty content, and he wasnt- and I couldnt understand why because his reasoning made no sense to me.
I could of written these words myself. We had so very much in common - we were very active together. And really never argued. I was "happy".
Now I know so much more.
Oh yes, I can relate to this! My ex used all sorts of 'reasons' to end the relationship that were just so untrue! He convinced himself that we argue all the time (WE never argued!), and that he had been so unhappy for so long, when we'd had a brilliant 6 months or so leading up to the break-up. Everything he had liked about me, suddenly became reasons to dislike me; my love of animals, for example!
His ears must be burning tonight, because out of the blue he's just emailed me, saying 'How are you'. Pft...
No...I actually have trouble feeling bitter towards him, because after all...he's ill! I can walk away from this and recover, but he's stuck with this until if and when the condition allows him to seek help. Although I must admit, when he's in the narcissist frame of mind, that's a very different kettle of fish! That person I very much dislike.
The whole grumbling about the animals thing, was actually jealousy. He loves animals, but he used to complain if I was giving a pet attention, rather than him!