He threw a chair today

[Think About It...]

... and it broke the bookshelf it hit.  He threw a fit over my objection to how he was talking to my son (my son was not there for this - he was at preschool). 

I'm kind of numb about the whole thing.  I know I should probably be thinking and planning some sort of escape.  Truth is - there is no easy out.  I just have to keep working and getting raises and then I may have options.  I have small children and no family to help.  I should be up for another decent raise in a few months.  I just have to make it there.  I don't want to leave him but I don't want my life to be so much held hostage by his anger.  I love him.  But I hurt so much.  I just want a scenario where I'm not feeling like everything hangs by a thread all the time. 

[tiff]

... and it broke the bookshelf it hit.  He threw a fit over my objection to how he was talking to my son (my son was not there for this - he was at preschool). 

I'm kind of numb about the whole thing.  I know I should probably be thinking and planning some sort of escape.  Truth is - there is no easy out.  I just have to keep working and getting raises and then I may have options.  I have small children and no family to help.  I should be up for another decent raise in a few months.  I just have to make it there.  I don't want to leave him but I don't want my life to be so much held hostage by his anger.  I love him.  But I hurt so much.  I just want a scenario where I'm not feeling like everything hangs by a thread all the time. 

[goinbonkers]

sorry you had to go through that.  the only suggestion i have for you is to empower yourself.

[Rose Tiger]

It might help to look at it as a three year old temper tantrum.  Don't get your way, throw a tantrum.

There is a america's funniest video where the child throws himself down crying at the top of his lungs.  The parents move to a different room.  The child realizes he doesn't have an audience, gets up, walks to where they are and throws himself down again crying at the top of his lungs.  The parents move again. 

When the kiddo had no audience the behavior stopped.  A person might amp it up when they get no reaction but they eventually catch on that they are pushing on a string.  I've gotten really good at having no reaction other than a bland face.  If it amps up, exit the room.