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« Reply #20 on: May 29, 2012, 01:08:46 PM »
Wow, ok, so what I thought about my ex being biploar and BPD and a sociopath are not that far fetched. Wow.

Sorry but Frieda your post made me laugh. Not that it's a funny matter but you actually brought a smile to my face again. Wow, now that is a crazy person :-)
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« Reply #21 on: May 29, 2012, 04:00:46 PM »
Quote from: feelingcrazy7832 on May 29, 2012, 01:08:46 PM
Wow, ok, so what I thought about my ex being biploar and BPD and a sociopath are not that far fetched. Wow.

Sorry but Frieda your post made me laugh. Not that it's a funny matter but you actually brought a smile to my face again. Wow, now that is a crazy person :-)

It made me smile too.

My uBPDw is losing hair, I think she would glue it back if she didn't have an OCD condition against "stickiness" (she hates sticky things).
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« Reply #22 on: May 30, 2012, 10:03:35 AM »
Did  we  all  know  the  same  person?  Sweet  Jesus.  What  made  us  think  we  could  "fix"  cuckoo  beyond  recognition  ?  She'll  prolly  end  up  in  a  mental  institution  somewhere  eating  strained  peas...
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« Reply #23 on: May 30, 2012, 09:03:42 PM »
Definitely Histrionic. Mild Bi-Polar. Refuses to take any medication. It's everyone's else's fault that they think she needs to be on medication. What a mess.
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« Reply #24 on: May 31, 2012, 02:55:35 AM »
I  think  a  lot  of  them  are  labeled  bipolar  so  insurance  will  pay...here  in  the  US,  you  are  on  your  own  with  a  PD.  Its  sad,  but  yet  another  way  how  the   healthcare  system  here  is  so  incredibly  f***ked  up  and  broken.  Another  reason  I  for  the  bipolar  label  is  so  they  can  shove  them  full  of  meds...
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« Reply #25 on: May 31, 2012, 03:03:28 AM »
mine tried to shove his medication down my throat numerous times.after a long depressive few months my doctor put me on medication.the exact same pill he is on...seems i am the one with BPD...kill me now
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« Reply #26 on: May 31, 2012, 04:49:39 AM »
Bonnie, I wish I had got to this while you were still online. What is going on? Do you really think you are BPD? Or that your doctor thinks you are? Or that he is making you out to be the crazy one?

My ex tried to get me to go to docs and take meds too, but he would never go. And yeah, there have been times I have acted really really crazy. I feel guilty that my kids have seen that... even though I hid most of it.

Remember this quote "Crazy people make us crazy." That helps me all the time! It means our behaviour is bound to get crazy from being around them. The further we get away from them, the more our real, stronger selves can come back online.
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« Reply #27 on: May 31, 2012, 06:40:28 AM »
BPD, OCD, ADHD, alcoholic, anxiety
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« Reply #28 on: June 01, 2012, 03:14:20 PM »
Mine claimed he was depressed and had his "ADHD thing."  He showed all the signs of depression - huge weight swings, unable to sleep, unable to start a project, negative thoughts. 

I think it makes sense for a BPD to be depressed at least some of the time based on their thought patterns. 

Mine also claimed to have ADHD but that might have been depression.  I don't think he ever got a formal diagnosis for either of those things.

Based on everything I read, I believe my BPDbf was also NPD and probably also a sociopath or completely psychotic.  He was completely unable or unwilling to understand or even attempt to think about anyone else's feelings.  Everything revolved around him and, if it didn't, he raged or sulked. BPD and NPD overlap in many cases.  I've often heard that a recovered BPD is an NPD. 

I very much understand wanting to get into your ex-partner's head and try to find some rational explanation for what they do but that isn't possible when they don't think clearly.  I finally had to simply accept that my exBPDbf was mentally ill.  The narrower labels don't matter to me anymore. 

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