Sad story. In fact, life is supposed to be easy but it isnt. This is a cruel truth.
She lives with her BPD mother. Her father lives with his wife and his daughter. I stay in NC as long as I can. I will stay in NC as long as things are normal. If she will come back (and she will) I will be unavailable. Let's see how her parents handle it. Last time they refused to handle it. She is HF BPD, is not so hard to help her if they want to but they dont want it. I am from Romania. Here, to accept you have a PD is like accepting to be isolated.
OK, another truth: I bribed yesterday two teachers to give her two "A". She needs two "A" to graduate the college. I know, I know...
Enabling isn't helping her. Just saying.