I basically wrote him back and said there's two sides to every story, I do love him and I am not willing to give up so easily.
BUT I feel like I married two people and don't ever know
which one I will be facing!
I tried to validate the good parts of the e-mail and tell him that I recognized the financial burden was on him. the stress was on both of us that year.
I also told him that the scary abusive bully side of him makes me want him to get some help for his anger issues. I assured him that I am willing to attend counseling jointly with him or alone to work all this out.
I told him that it's apparent that CRITICISM is a touchy point for him.
And I did NOT try to re-write or correct his fairy tale!
the funny part is that I rarely spoke up or argued during our whole r/s of 3 years because He turns into the Hulk when I do. So I basically tippy toed around his hot points...but he will tell you that I am the worst most negative shrew that ever crawled the earth. I am really NOT!
he projects all his negative stuff OUT onto me.
I wish I had a teflon suit! and a helmet.
AND a bad ass sugary cotton candy ray gun that would cover him with sweetness and light and turn black into white again! Or pink?