why why why?
I ask this often too-and I am frankly puzzled as I have no trouble making my needs, wants or opinions known and heard by others. it's just my H who cannot/will not hear me.
to make it worse he turns everything back onto me even if the complaint was legitimately MINE to begin with.
I state calmly that I am disappointed/unhappy over XYZ...and even if it was a joint venture or plan it somehow ends up ALL MY FAULT.
He even takes my life events to be ALL MY *choices*- forgetting that we fell in love and wanted to be together-NO. (He was just here coincidentally?)
I left my old life, my job, my hometown to be with him...and he blames ME alone, for that.
Forgetting that he threatened me that we would be *through* even after two years together if I didn't move in with him!
I guess I could have drawn a hard line and thrown away our r/s at that point.
He's the victim, has done everything to make me happy <snort>
and I was the one who has NO right to feel regret over (what he claims were) ALL MY CHOICES.
this is the stuff that he vents to his friends and sponsors. Ugh.
So yeah...Sometimes I ask WHY, too!