Found out she is with the guy I suspected she wanted

[Think About It...]

At the end of our R/S, she was working with the new guy (I urged her to contact him because I saw an ad he had out looking for employees), and I suspected that she was prepping him as her next victim...he was married to someone he barley knew the day she dumped me, but now, 3 months later, that marriage is already over and he and my ex are together. What a drama story.

This validates that I knew what was going on near the end  - she like that he was so "into marriage" - (I countered that if he was marrying someone after 2 months of knowing her he was actually into divorce), even though she lied and denied that she was interested in him. All respect for her is gone.

Please remind me of all the good that comes from knowing all of this - it hurts, but it also validates that I dodged a bullet. I can't imagine that R/S working since it's based on deceit on both sides. Although I don't want to be stuck in wanting more pain for anyone either. I'm sure this one won't last either.

[lessonslearned]

At the end of our R/S, she was working with the new guy (I urged her to contact him because I saw an ad he had out looking for employees), and I suspected that she was prepping him as her next victim...he was married to someone he barley knew the day she dumped me, but now, 3 months later, that marriage is already over and he and my ex are together. What a drama story.

This validates that I knew what was going on near the end  - she like that he was so "into marriage" - (I countered that if he was marrying someone after 2 months of knowing her he was actually into divorce), even though she lied and denied that she was interested in him. All respect for her is gone.

Please remind me of all the good that comes from knowing all of this - it hurts, but it also validates that I dodged a bullet. I can't imagine that R/S working since it's based on deceit on both sides. Although I don't want to be stuck in wanting more pain for anyone either. I'm sure this one won't last either.

[seeking balance]

Please remind me of all the good that comes from knowing all of this - it hurts, but it also validates that I dodged a bullet. I can't imagine that R/S working since it's based on deceit on both sides. Although I don't want to be stuck in wanting more pain for anyone either. I'm sure this one won't last either.

It hurts, I know it hurts and you will get through it.  She is showing you who she is - let yourself grieve it so you can let go.  You did dodge a fatal bullet, but the bullet did get you somewhat; it's ok to feel that hurt - it is the only way to move forward.

Hang in there!

Peace,
SB