Hi this is the first time I've posted on this board I am staying and uBPDw of 20 years is in extreme push I am painted black hole black.
This is probably the first cycle that 19d and 17d have witnessed fully. Usually was while they were in rooms or sleeping.
I have not discussed specifics with kids/young adults but have talked about safety and validation rage and appropriateness. Believe it or not they are both pretty well grounded probably got a few fleas but that's for them to work out w there future T
We have entered a new area to me Wife is fine with girls ( they have usual ups and downs mother daughter stuff ) picture wife and daughter chatting away no problems I walk into room wife melts downs or goes to verge of rage. Then I leave she continues with child like nothing happened. Weird huh. Now same thing happening but this time d17 defends me wife backs down. I have not coached or directed her to do this (like I said they are well grounded given their FO)
I am sort of proud of her on one level standing up to the bully but I am not sure she should get in the middle. Wife doesn't hold it against ds when they tell truth to power.