Hectic day yesterday

[Think About It...]

Yesterday was her dad's bday (he's dead and was the one who abused her when she was young) on top of that her mom went back on her word with loaning her her truck to help gf move next week. I did everything I could to help validate her feelings and calm her down best I could after she talked to her mom. It's pretty upsetting, she tries her best to be noticed by her family, but they play favorites and she feels like she is the black sheep of the family. On top of it being her dads bday...that didnt go over so well either. So eventually before bed, she fell asleep on the couch and it took me a good 15min to get her up and which she responded with an attitude of course. I kept my composure, she threw in some mean comments and I told her nicely, but calmly that I am no longer waking her to go to bed. She gave me the key to her place the other day which was actually a big thing. And last night before bed after she raged a bit she said she knew it was a mistake giving me the key, because I can come and go as I please now (She said this because I got off work earlier that day as I was not feeling good and she didnt mind me going to her place to lay down).

So this morning I asked her if she wanted her key back and she completely changed the subject. And I asked her again if she wanted it back. She said no asked for a hug before I left and told me she loves. Didn't even bring up last night at all aside from the key part.

Anyways sorry for rambling I just need to vent some. I think I did a good job overall though.

[sirhero]

Yesterday was her dad's bday (he's dead and was the one who abused her when she was young) on top of that her mom went back on her word with loaning her her truck to help gf move next week. I did everything I could to help validate her feelings and calm her down best I could after she talked to her mom. It's pretty upsetting, she tries her best to be noticed by her family, but they play favorites and she feels like she is the black sheep of the family. On top of it being her dads bday...that didnt go over so well either. So eventually before bed, she fell asleep on the couch and it took me a good 15min to get her up and which she responded with an attitude of course. I kept my composure, she threw in some mean comments and I told her nicely, but calmly that I am no longer waking her to go to bed. She gave me the key to her place the other day which was actually a big thing. And last night before bed after she raged a bit she said she knew it was a mistake giving me the key, because I can come and go as I please now (She said this because I got off work earlier that day as I was not feeling good and she didnt mind me going to her place to lay down).

So this morning I asked her if she wanted her key back and she completely changed the subject. And I asked her again if she wanted it back. She said no asked for a hug before I left and told me she loves. Didn't even bring up last night at all aside from the key part.

Anyways sorry for rambling I just need to vent some. I think I did a good job overall though.

[desperate dutchman]

   Good Job Sirhero
I have the same problem with my wife when she wakes up...Its a 50/50 chance that I will get a lion or a lamb... I will tell you from my experience my wife really does not remember what she says in this half in half out state.  Its almost like instead of sleep walking she is sleep raging

[sirhero]

 Good Job Sirhero
I have the same problem with my wife when she wakes up...Its a 50/50 chance that I will get a lion or a lamb... I will tell you from my experience my wife really does not remember what she says in this half in half out state.  Its almost like instead of sleep walking she is sleep raging

Yeah I've noticed its 50/50 with her too and most of the time she really does not remember what she said and I try my best not to take it personal though it can be hard sometimes. I know I'll still end up waking her up I just need to be ready for the sleep rage haha. Have you tried any other methods to wake her?

[desperate dutchman]

I have coaxed the familiy pet to nudge her and she is fine with that. I do not suggest the bucket of ice water   ISeriously I generally avoid touching her and gently talk to her its the only way that has the least chance of aggrevaiting her