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Butterfly78

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« on: June 22, 2012, 11:19:29 PM »
I made it 30 days! No contact at all and I'm proud of myself. He left me in March, but he made contact off and on all of this time and I had gave in each time. My last conversation May 22 I hung up on him and said leave me alone and here I am.  Doing the right thing  I just wanted to share.
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« Reply #1 on: June 23, 2012, 04:02:31 PM »
Yay!

How do you feel now compared to Day One?
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« Reply #2 on: June 23, 2012, 08:45:09 PM »
I have come so far from day one! The first month I stopped eating, had anxiety attacks etc. I didn't think I could go on if I continued to feel that way. Thanks to support here I am in such a better place. Im still working through things, but feels good to know I've made it this far.
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« Reply #3 on: June 23, 2012, 10:24:09 PM »
Butterfly, congratulations!  I am almost through day 26.
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« Reply #4 on: June 24, 2012, 01:19:30 AM »
That's awesome butterfly   Doing the right thing
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« Reply #5 on: June 24, 2012, 10:09:19 PM »
Quote from: exBPDgf on June 23, 2012, 10:24:09 PM
Butterfly, congratulations!  I am almost through day 26.

Good for you!  Doing the right thing  Hopefully it will continue to get easier
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« Reply #6 on: June 27, 2012, 05:14:14 PM »
Today is a month NC for me! I've woken up happy the last two days, so I think I'm still feeling "something lift off my shoulders" a bit.

She is still trying to contact me tho. I blocked the ex uBPD from cell/text/email. I did this after I got a drama-filled text last week as she's moving out of the country for a year, so now (of course) I'm starting to get more blocked calls, but it feels good to know I can do this to take care of myself and continue my healing.
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