Self harm or injury

[Think About It...]

When my dBPDw rages at me, and I remove myself from the situation, she often responds by hurting herself.  This is usually taking a scalding hot shower, pulling out her hair/eyelashes/eyebrows.  While not self-injury per se, she also sometimes locks herself in her closet and lays on the floor and cries and wails about how I don't care about her.  She tells me she goes in the closet so she can be away from her pills and the temptation to take them all at once and end everything. 

I'm not really sure how to handle these things. . .she can maintain crying for an amazingly long time, and I fear she could try to hang herself or something in there if I just let her cry it out. 

Anybody have any ideas/suggestions?  Thanks. 

Sooooo tired.   

[ApChagi1]

When my dBPDw rages at me, and I remove myself from the situation, she often responds by hurting herself.  This is usually taking a scalding hot shower, pulling out her hair/eyelashes/eyebrows.  While not self-injury per se, she also sometimes locks herself in her closet and lays on the floor and cries and wails about how I don't care about her.  She tells me she goes in the closet so she can be away from her pills and the temptation to take them all at once and end everything. 

I'm not really sure how to handle these things. . .she can maintain crying for an amazingly long time, and I fear she could try to hang herself or something in there if I just let her cry it out. 

Anybody have any ideas/suggestions?  Thanks. 

Sooooo tired.   

[united for now]

Having to deal with a person who self injuries is very scary.

To help I need to ask a few questions 

+ does she have a history of suicide attempts?

+ how do you typically respond during or after one of these episodes?

+ does she have a  T to work with?

+ have you read our workshop on how to cope when someone SI?

[waverider]

Partner goes through phases of this.

I monitor, dont pass judgement, dont panic, but I dont make undue fuss

It is not all directly attention seeking, but it can be if you act in an attention rewarding way. Often it is about feeling pain on the outside to override the pain on the inside. It is almost like a projection path. As my partner says it is out of the mind into the hand. Gives her real  physical focal point for the pain, normalises the reason for pain and makes it easier to express.

It is not a suicide attempt.

my partners favourite was cutting with razor then writing abusive hate messages in blood all over any mirrors in the house. Looks like a real horror movie.

[united for now]

Here is a helpful link regarding self injury
 http://BPDfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=70493.msg1124968#msg1124968