Stop making it worse - with NPD

[Think About It...]

Hi Dynamic

since he lives in an other appartement right now (I want a separation, -->L2)
the balcony is really a place of peace for me. 

S.

[Surnia]

Hi Dynamic

since he lives in an other appartement right now (I want a separation, -->L2)
the balcony is really a place of peace for me. 

S.

[Dynamic]

Good for you that you have some quality time for yourself, Surnia. 

Hope the separation would help you sort out things & bring clarity.

All the best. 

[Surnia]

Thank you so much, Dynamic. 

Surnia

[Validation78]

Hi Surnia!
   My uBPDh and I had been separated for 3 months until a few weeks ago. It gave us both time to come to some conclusions. We both know that we have to do something different than we had been doing. I never had to state my terms, but he now knows my boundaries, and I know his. That was the first step for me. Thus far, he has met my expectations, and I feel we have a chance. It is not perfect now that we are back under the same roof. However, the time apart was good for us both. I hope it is for you as well. Whatever the outcome, I wish you peace!

Best Wishes,
Val78

[Pixie-Dust]

As said some days before, I ordered the book from Nina Brown. It arrived today. I like it!

-Yay! 

Yesterday I ordered "Help, I'm in Love With a Narcissist!", the one Randi Krieger said was good. I'll let you know what I think about it if you'd like. 

Sounds like you are really taking care of yourself, separating until you figure this out, doing little things to make you happy, reading and learning.   

Your on the right track!

  's

Pixie 

[Surnia]

Hi Val
Thank you for your kind words! Yes, there is peace, and I need it deeply. I feel mostly very happy, just with my self. 



To Pixie
Thank you for your hugs 
Nina Brown's book is very interesting and challenging. Perhaps later I will make a thread to discuss some topics.

S.

[Salut]

If you liked the book by Brene Brown, try listening to her Ted Talks.  Here is one of them http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_listening_to_shame.html.  She is really awesome!

[Surnia]

Hi Salut

  The other way round was it: Through TED talks I found her and finally the book!

For all others here around: Take a look and ear from the link above.

I was attracted about her speaking about shame bc shame is/was a very important issue for me. It was en eyeopener for me that you need sharing about shame to find release from it. 

S.