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woodstock79
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« on: July 02, 2012, 10:21:36 PM »

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So...tonight, while working on some stuff at the library, I get a text message from the guy I asked before my partner and I started having marital problems to donate sperm for us to have a baby.  My partner has PCOS, and does not ovulate on her own.  So, she seemed OK in the moment, but then, later, I decided to tell a friend of mine that he said yes, and my partner went off.  She said I was rushing her, that I didn't understand and would never understand that she can't just try to have a baby.  But, I do understand.  I have been with her for 5 years, and know fully well that she can't just get pregnant.  I have been researching options and such to get her the fertility medications, etc.  I feel like I am trying so hard.

But, she was so angry with me, she wouldn't let me console her, and she went upstairs to talk to the guy she told me a few weeks she has feelings for.  I felt like we were getting into a good place, and now I am so confused, hurt, and angry.

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« Reply #1 on: July 03, 2012, 02:52:27 PM »

I can see how this topic might be triggering for her.  Try some validation around this.  She seems very conflicted right now about a lot of things.  What are you doing to take care of yourself as she sorts this out?
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